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Overactive Bladder

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NotMeredithGrey Mon 12-Sep-16 15:40:49

Feeling a little worried about my DS who is 7. He seems to be constantly going to the toilet and goes from not needing the toilet to being busting for the toilet in a matter of minutes.

The other day whilst shopping, we went to the toilet, then started shopping but we were literally back to the toilet every other shop.

Today his teacher told him he couldn't go to the toilet as he'd been too much already and he had a little accident sadthankfully I don't think anyone noticed but I could smell it as soon as I picked him up from school. I had a word with her and she apologised but said he does go an awful lot.

Then when we got home he confided that some children call him "toilet boy" as he goes so much sad

He also wets the bed almost every night and I thought he may just grow out of it but obviously there is a real problem here. Has anyone had a similar experience?

SnowInLove Mon 12-Sep-16 17:32:58

We're having similar issues with my dd. She's almost 4 and wets herself up to 8 times per day, despite being fully potty trained for a year when it first began happening.

I indentify when you say they go from nothing to bursting within seconds. We've been back to our gp 3 times in the past few months and he's finally agreed to refer her.

With your DS being 7, I'd speak to the school nurse. Also, perhaps an agreement with his teacher he can slip out to the loo without asking and drawing attention to himself.

Mybeardeddragonjustdied2016 Mon 12-Sep-16 18:35:09

Does he drink juice? My ds 7 is terrible with even 1 cup of juice. Wets the bed and pees all day.

NotMeredithGrey Mon 12-Sep-16 18:35:31

Thank you so much for your reply, Snow. I think that's a great idea, each class in the juniors has its own toilets in the classroom. I will definitely talk to the school nurse as I have a good relationship with her. Your little one is quite young so she may grow out of it but I'm glad you got referred. Hopefully it will get sorted soon.

NotMeredithGrey Mon 12-Sep-16 18:36:58

BeardedDragon, he does drink No Added Sugar squash. I will cut that out and see how it goes, thank you.

grandmainmypocket Mon 12-Sep-16 18:50:37

My son is 7 and he's had this problem for years. He's been referred and he now drinks plenty of water to help extend his bladder.
I would start with the GP. Cut out squashes/fizzy drinks.
Keep a drinks diary on the weekend.

On the first day of school I introduced myself to the teacher and told her about his urine problem. So I really relate.

NotMeredithGrey Mon 12-Sep-16 19:43:38

Thank you grandma, great advice x

bobblewobble Mon 12-Sep-16 20:52:18

My son has an overactive bladder and wets at least once every night. He has just turned 8. He has been prescribed desmomelt to lower urine production in the night (starting this week) and he has to drink loads and loads in the day. We also have to go to the toilet every 20-30 minutes while out and about.

My son keeps a bottle of water in class, so he can keep drinking all day. May make things worse to begin with but it's the only way to stretch his bladder.

We were eventually referred in January to an enuresis clinic, after going back and for since the age of 3. Reassure your son that load of children go through this. My son didn't believe me until 2 different drs told him this!

NotMeredithGrey Mon 12-Sep-16 21:46:49

Thanks bobblewobble. We've already been to an enuresis clinic and the woman was absolutely rubbish. Her entire advice was to cut out blackcurrant, and when we went back each month with no change, she seemed genuinely surprised that hasn't worked and had no other advice! She discharged us promising to be in touch about a bed wetting alarm and that was a year ago angry
Hope you have better luck!

PS good tip about the water.

Everytimeref Mon 12-Sep-16 21:51:59

My 14 SDS still wets the bed 50% of the time and has no real control overs his bladder during the day. He has had the tablets etc which help but not cure. The only advise seems to be drink more but he is reluctant because he is scared of accidents.

Bogburglar75 Mon 12-Sep-16 21:52:09

My DD has this and she takes oxybutynin which helps quite a lot. Also has to try and drink loads during the day which she is a monkey for not doing angry.
The medication has helped a lot with the urgency and daytime wetting.

If you try and get back to the enuresis clinic or the GP then they may be able to prescribe for you.

FreezerBird Mon 12-Sep-16 21:55:08

Have you checked whether he's constipated as well? Chronic constipation can affect bladder control.

Might be worth talking to ERIC. Both my children have continence issues which are due to known underlying diagnoses, which makes things easier I guess. DS has a Specialist Continence nurse who is AWESOME and works for ERIC as well, so I think they're pretty good.

newmummyagain Mon 12-Sep-16 21:57:38

No added sugar squashes are likely contributing, in particular if it's blackcurrant apparently. Try cutting those out and see if it makes a difference.

NotMeredithGrey Mon 12-Sep-16 22:05:09

Thank you all for your advice. I will definitely cut out the squash. He's definitely not constipated but is lazy in that he will sometimes need a poo but put it off as he's busy playing/reading and leave it til the last minute.

I feel better knowing we're not alone, thank you all.

MumiTravels Mon 12-Sep-16 22:19:43

I'd go back to the GP for a re-referal as it's not fair to your son. It's beyond his control and it's affecting his quality of life and learning.

Keep the school fully informed.

Hope you get something sorted flowers

newmummyagain Mon 12-Sep-16 23:07:20

Sorry didn't see your other post. Must be so frustrating, hope you figure something out x

Rosangela3683 Mon 19-Sep-16 08:41:25

Hi all mums! my name's Rose and I'm writing from Italy. My DS is 5 years old and has never gained full bladder control during the day (he can wet himself up to 3 times in an hour! :'( ). I spoke to his pediatrician and she told us he will grow out of it, as it's a matter of bladder maturation delay. I am not so convinced; we have tried oxybutinin and tolterodine with little success. Had uroflowmetry and MRI of the spine. All came back negative. He has a smaller bladder capacity than expected for his age. Now he's wetting also every night, while he was usually dry before. I don't know what to do because he suffers a lot of this URGE INCONTINENCE..I feel so lonely and desperate..always changing him, every day and every night. How do you try to stay calm? please need help!

grandmainmypocket Fri 23-Sep-16 07:10:06

I'm sorry it's so difficult for your ds and you. I don't have a similar experience of wetting during the day but still find it challenging. I can't imagine what you're going through.
Have you considered putting him back in nappies for a while? Is he anxious in any way. Being calm is hard but will help both of you. Does he drink enough water? Have you been on the ERIC website? I wonder if they have better support there?

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