Got a doctor's appointment for my 11y old DS in two days, so trying to write things down, so that we can get the most out of it. If you lovely people could help me make sure all the important stuff is there, and if you can think of any important questions to ask, or ways to frame it, that'd be seriously appreciated. Karma points guaranteed
The reason for the appointment is persistent tiredness, not wanting to go to school (to the point of tears - often), low energy, difficulty falling asleep as well as 'keeping' asleep iykwim. He wakes up 2-3 times a night, at 1am, 3am and 5am roughly, he sometimes comes to my room, sometimes not. That's up to 4 hours a night of sleep gone, every night, to waking up and trying to fall asleep again! This is going on for months. The tiredness is of the extreme kind where he says his music lesson on Saturday morning was hard because he had to keep his eyes open for the whole lesson (30min). He feels tired even after a lie-in or a lazy weekend. Mornings are particularly hard and the first two lessons in school, he says, he has difficulty staying awake. We started a new school in September, so no doubt this is partly why he is so tired, but five months on, and it gets worse not better. No actual problems in school, as far as I know, apart from the usual settling in stuff. He is very bright and very academic, can concentrate for hours, and so is doing well in school in that sense.
Separately, or maybe not so separately, there is a history of obsessive behaviours that in my mind point to Asperger's and anxiety. Over the years we went through bad habits like biting nails, chewing jumpers, pulling hair. Once we get rid of one habit he starts on the next one, and so it goes, in circles. He knows by now that these habits are not socially acceptable but at times when he's not happy (like in the recent months) he can't help it. He can be rude or overly controlling without realising it - but this is a tricky area where I find it hard to tell whether this is just a preteen experimenting with what works in social situations, or whether it is indeed quite off the mark.
He eats a limited range of foods and never touches raw veg in any shape or form. Trying new foods, getting used to new people or environments is a major challenge, every time. He prefers to be on his own, to spending time with people. Very sensitive skin (he had eczema when he was a baby/toddler), and hayfever which can sometimes be so bad he needs an inhaler.
I'm thinking of asking for a blood test (thyroid etc), and Asperger's assessment.
Will see what other suggestions the doctor will put on the table too.
Thoughts? (Or just handholding)... Thank you.
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Persistent tiredness, difficulty sleeping, possible Asperger's
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StuffEverywhere · 01/02/2016 20:41
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