Sorry, I'm posting this in 2 places now! I have been sent here, so anyone with experience, would be lovely (obviously not lovely, but helpful)...
I just really need some support... I gave birth to twin boys, 2 weeks ago, who are still nameless. DS is 9 and a half - he was diagnosed with AML, 9 months ago, he is getting through it like such a trooper, but I know he is struggling. DH works too much, but refuses to stop, so I'm doing it all by myself. Sorry this isn't much info, just need some support sad
Oh poor you what a lot on your plate! How about DS gets to choose a middle name for each brother ? This might help him feel close to the twins and will be special for all of them. Men, I think sometimes just need telling what you need. Tell him, for example, that you need him home by 5:30 2 nights a week to help with dinner-bath- bed and give older DS some one on one time, for example...or whatever you need. I hope your DS is better soon, fuck cancer x
Giving each brother a name would be a gift from their big brother that will be with them for all their lives, whatever happens. Hopefully it will serve to remind him when he is a teenager and they are irritating snotty 5 year olds that he had an important role when they were babies!
Your DS has great taste (I love traditional names). Do you think your DH is working so much because he really feels he has to (I do realise that having a child with such a significant illness can have a lot of hidden costs...let alone twins), or because it's actually the easy option, as he can escape from the stresses of everyday care?
nocoolnamesleft - I think it's a bit of both? He had PTSD with DS1 and now wants to stay away, I think, but also wants to work for the money - I really would rather he stopped for a bit and I used some savings, but he's having none of it
user - I'm sure he would love that - he likes to have a good read of our baby name book!! Thank you, lovely x
Caravan "eh?!" Your problem my name or my post? Do pm if interested, else report my post. I was trying to offer OP support <and hope>, I have suggested that what was an awful <imminently terminal> diagnosis may not be so bad with modern chemo, but as has been found and was posted by Puffles still seriously rough on DS.
Direct to OP: Puffles Does he like , offered him in abundance from me.