Before I go on, I am not part of the Yewtree which hunt... but it has got me thinking about an incident that was quite traumatic (tho I don't know whether it was 'bad' or not).
When I was about 7 my mum took me to the GP. I cannot remember the reason, but childhood constipation could have been the issue as that is pretty common. He asked her to leave the room and wait outside. He then asked me to lie face down on the examining bed. He drew down my trousers and stuck is finger in my bottom for a certain time (this is hazy). It was painful. The next thing is he drew back the curtain and went to the basin to wash his hands (no gloves?... I don't recall). Then he called mum back in.
Ever since that time I was very frightened of the GP, but this could have been perfectly normal - I'm asking here because Googling this event is not helpful.
Can anyone, especially a GP, shed any light? I'm not saying he was wrong, or that he was a perv, I just don't know... it was early 1980s
A doctor did this to me when I was young. Probably similar to your age. My mum wasn't asked to leave the room though. Was due to constipation too. She was a female doctor, and the doctor I always went to for any issue. So I don't think it was necessarily anything iffy.
It's not unusual to do a rectal exam for constipation as it allows them to feel for impacted stool or if the blockage is further up. I would wash my hands after such a procedure gloves or not. The only thing out of the ordinary is your mum being asked to leave as a HCP I would prefer a chaperone and a parent could comfort the child through an unpleasant procedure.
It's tricky. I don't know how old you are, but when I was a child doctors were all knowing and all powerful and my mum would have done anything they said. If a gp had asked her to leave the room while he did a rectal examination she would have.
In fact I remember thinking my mum was (is) quite obsessed with dr's looking at bums as any stomach pain visit was usually accompanied by a whispered warning that the Dr might want to look "down there"
I know my sister had quite a few rectal exams and a bowel wash out for "constipation". The bowel wash out my mum definitely wasn't present as I remember sitting in the waiting room with her.
That isn't to say some dr's might not have taken advantage of situations. But I do think it's far less acceptable now- I wouldn't let anyone near my dc unless they could give me a very good reason, I was present, and the dc knew and had consented as best they can.
Perhaps you could ask to see your medical records? Then you would at least know why you were taken to see the doctor, which doctor you saw, whether it was the same one each time and whether the examination was recorded.
OK. Sounds like it could have been perfectly normal. Though pretty frightening to me at the time (I only remembered it as a flashback - which made be suspicious you see). I wanted to sound it out as there are other weird memories, and I just wanted to put this one aside. FYI I don't talk to her (well, as little as possible to be precise, and I'm not unkind or rude, I just avoid her as much as possible) as she is not a mum, she is the person who gave birth to me. I don't hate her, I just don't want to love her or be loved by her, it's far too risky a thing to do. I'm much much happier (genuinely! ) on my own. Thanks.