Hi all,
My DNiece is 5, and has been complaining every day of tummy ache for the last few weeks, and frequently needing the toilet, but my Dsis and her DH are adamant that it is a cry for attention, and are not, in my opinion taking it seriously. They don't think they need to take to GP, and when she says she has a tummy ache, they just say, "oh dear, give it a rub and it will soon feel better".
At first, when my Dsis told me about this going on I wasn't overly concerned, but yesterday I was round theirs, and I actually saw DN bent over, screaming and crying seemingly in pain, and my bro-in-law ignoring her, saying that she was doing it for attention (Dsis was upstairs bathing the baby) and this really upset me. I went to DN to give her a cuddle, and Bro in law said, "she'll stop now that she's got what she's wanted" and was then really off with me for the rest of the evening, and I know I was out order to intervene in the way he was handling it, but it just really unsettled me the way he was ignoring her when she was gripping her tummy and screaming. I gave her some water and a cuddle, and she did settle, and after a couple of minutes she went to the toilet for a number 2, although I didn't see if her 'movement' was loose or otherwise because she goes independently. I said to my bro in law, "she will probably feel better now she's been to the loo", and again he said to me, "there's nothing wrong with her It's her latest ploy for attention, she'll soon move onto something else".
Then at dinner, she was refusing to eat and complaining that her tummy hurts and she wanted to go to the toilet, but bro-in law said she had to finish her dinner and refused to let her go, and Dsis supported him. Eventually, she stopped crying and had a few mouthfuls, when bro-in-law told her that she would have to go into Time Out if she didn't stop.
When I brought it up again later, my Dsis was adamant that there is nothing wrong with DN, and it is all for attention, despite the fact that this has now been going on for nearly 3 weeks.
The baby, my Dnephew was born 3 months ago, and admittedly, DN has not really taken to him all to well, especially once the novelty wore off. She has displayed some attention seeking behaviours in the last couple of months, such as pushing boundaries, being cheeky, but in my opinion, this just seems too far for a 5 year old to go, and I am now really worried that something is wrong with her, and Dsis and Bro in law could me making her even more poorly by failing to notice.
Any thoughts on this?
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Tummy aches as cry for attention?
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Whotookallthegoodnames · 07/12/2014 13:11
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