He is having his second op on Wednesday, I haven't said anything to him yet. I just don't know what to say. As far as he is concerned there isn't anything wrong with him.
He had the first stage of the op at 18 months old so we all got on with it without any real explanations why. I don't think he has much recollection of the first op except he does seem frightened of hospitals.
He is at the 'why' stage now & I'll have to talk to him about it today (pre-op assessment is tomorrow when lots of doctors will be looking at his penis - how do I explain that?)
How do I explain what's wrong with him? Does anyone have any ideas how to tell him he's got to go for an operation and why?
(It is 3rd degree hypospadias with chordee - they couldn't correct the chordee last time and said due to the severity of it, it can't ever be corrected). I'm trying to be chipper and upbeat about everything but keep bursting into tears (not in front of him) so I need to meticulously plan the conversation as much as possible so I don't get all choked up when I'm talking to him.
I did call the hospital for advice, they said there is a play specialist who will talk to him after the pre op assessment tomorrow, but I think I need to talk to him before then.
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Hypospadias repair - What to say to DS (3) about the operation?
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gotosleepmybaby · 19/08/2013 11:48
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