for peace of mind visit your local social sevices, they can reasure you that these childminders are registered, how long they have been registerd, and if there have been any previous concerns about their childcare skills. mothers who leave thier children with childminders have to fill in a report yearly for OFSTED, social services recieve a copy of these reports, so if they are glowing reports they should be able to inform you
Hang on Mosschops, I have been instructed (ie ordered) to remove 'Ted' from DT1's mouth 'cos as his Mummy says "He only needs it when he wants to sleep". He cries piteously when I remove it and I have to keep it on a very high shelf to keep it out of his sight. I feel terrible but have to follow Mums rules.....she might have a similar situation......
I'm not saying she was the right C/Mer for you just that there may have been a reason for the teddy incident...
Wait til you've met the other one on Friday. She might be perfect for you. If there's not much to choose between the 2, ask for telephone numbers of current parents from both, and phone them or ask to meet them. You will probably get a 'feel' then if either of them is right for you. If not, try CIS again, things change all the time.
Did you have DS present at the interviews?
If so did he respond well to the one you liked etc?
It may be that the ones that did not come across well were nervous- i have been minding for couple of years but still find the first meeting quite daunting!
Hope you get it resolved!
While i'm not saying it happens this way for everyone my childminder became a really good friend and support. Dd would still run to me if they fell and hurt their knee etc and i was there too.
My husband had to go back to work pretty soon after the birth of 2nd Dd and she would take my eldest dd to her house for fun and games giving all of us a break.
She did this because she genuinely loved them.
It was thanks to her and her recommendations that i decided to become a childminder.
Or if you feel you just can't bear to leave him yet, why don't you wait another year to go back and study, surely a year off won't make a huge difference.It sounds to me like you seriously don't want to leave him with anyone yet, so do you think you could do all of the work required if you're leaving him but are seriously unhappy?
You probably know in your heart what's right for you both.........