I'm thinking of hiring someone to help me out postnatally with DC2 (am 32 weeks at the moment). I'll be having an elective c/s due to permanent damage from DD's birth - and my only help will be the first two weeks when DH is on paternity leave. My Mum is 80 and in any case doesn't really like babies , my MIL lives miles away, can't afford to take any time off work and thinks breastfeeding is weird (!)... so I'm pretty much on my own.
Is a doula what I need? I just want someone to support me for a few hours a day so I can do basic things like have a wash, eat something vaguely nutritious (I survived on oatcakes and nutrigrain bars last time!), change my pj's or even - gasp - put some clothes on (!). I found it very hard recovering from bad tearing and lacerations with DD on my own and am scared of being that isolated in so much pain again.
I've already provisionally booked a night nanny for one night a week (all I can afford) so that I can get at least some sleep because DH doesn't do nights - so I can't afford much more... but I really think at least until I'm starting to heal I could do with someone coming every now and again. I'm not sure how it works though.
perhaps if you need a few hrs help during the day a newly qualified nanny or mothers help may be what you need, someone to play with older child, make sure he is sorted and then give you some time to wash, eat and even get a little sleep.
sometimes a maternity nanny works out the same cost a week as a night nanny. I know I charge £10 an hr for single baby at night and a maternity nanny charges £500-700 for 24/5 or 24/6.
lindseyfox I'm only booking the night nanny for one night a week (there's no way we could manage £500!) and in any case I'm not wanting to delegate all care to someone else. I just want to make sure I get a good night of sleep one night a week as I got NO sleep with DD for about eight months and ended up severely depressed and anxious as a result.
The night nanny I may be booking is also a part-time midwife at the local hospital, which is why she does night nannying as it fits round her other hours. She wouldn't be able to do any daytime hours.
oh i see i thought you had one booked for the full first week.
As a childrens nurse i too night nanny around my nursing job and often do 1/2/3 nights a week as a night nanny, for parents who just want a nights sleep without having to get up to the baby, i also will deal with any older siblings that wake such as a toddler just so the parents do get a full nights rest.