Kama - first babysitter for dd was when she was about 6 months. Ds was a terrible sleeper so I didn't get to leave him till about 9 months.
It's scarey the first time, but gets easier. I remember reading one of those email thingies about having 3 children - the first time you get a babysitter with the 1st you leave a huge list of contact numbers, strict instructions etc. with the 3rd child you leave instructions not to call unless there is blood. Thought it was funny.
depends, but usually once every two months. Not for a lack of babysitters, more the cost factor, plus we can take our boys out with us more, as they are bigger. Ideally I's like to have babysitters once a week but the £25.00 - 30.00 a night we give our babysitter makes it a bit expensive.
On average weekly I guess: Dh works a lot of evenings, so if I want to go out at all we have to get babysitters (and we have no family nearby). If I'm doing a course then it works out more often. Atm I'm not, so less often.
I didn't leave ds1 for ages (paranoid new mum), but left ds2 when he was 6 wks old. And left them both together on a weekly basis when they were 4 months and 26 months.
They would both be tucked up in bed asleep when the babysitter came, and she was a qualified NNEB, so I had no hesitations about it. She also lived nextdoor which was very convenient, and her mum was a childminder and her dad a firefighter. So I figured between them they were more qualified on the safety front than dh and me!
never happened yet. Mum has her two days a week so I can work but have never left her for the evening. She's hopeless at going to sleep so I couldn't leave her. This is ok most of the time but this weekend dh was rushed into hospital and I could really have done with being able to go and see him in the evenings. Am working tomorrow and tuesday so i won't be able to go and see him now till wednesday as i can't leave dd in the evenings. plus i have a parents evening on tuesday so will be late home from work. It would be handy at times like this if i'd got her used to being left in the evening
<Senora, here's a joke thread with that observation about 1st, 2nd and 3rd babies, scroll down to bumblelion's post of Thursday, 28 March, 2002 3:18:31 PM sorry for hijack> Cloudy, we try to go out once a month but it doesn't always happen so sometimes it's once every 2 months. We use Sitters, who are great.
A friend is going to babysit on 2nd april for us, we haven't been out since early october last year! my M&D won't do it, mum always has an excuse, in-laws would but they have such a social life that you have to book them months in advance.I always make sure the little one's are in bed asleep before we do go out.