One is 19m and is throwing, hitting and pushing. Obv this is age related but I literally cannot take my eyes off him for onesecond or a toy is thrown at whoever is nearest. Usually ds as mindee follows him around. Today he threw a tardis money box full of pennies (ds's favourite object) at ds's forehead.
I do the usual fuss the victim routine but ds is dreading him arriving now.
My other mindee is 8yrs and veryvery high maintenance. She stands outside the loo while I am in there, costantly wants food or a drink, immediately loses interest in an activity if I am not there interacting continuously, basically just wants constantly. sigh.
Both mindees are like this at home too so not just me! Just don't know what to do. DS is ASD/aspergers and I am tired.
I feel awful typing all this as they are not horrid kids - but I am tired today and looking for any tips or suggestions.
Mindee aged 8 has just had us all dash back from the pet shop were we were about to do thekids summer animal trail as she needed the loo. She went before we left BTW. I have called her bluff on this before and she has wet herself. On both occasions out less than an hour too. Trouble is don't drive so can't just pop to a loo.
I do try and get out and about and it does help the little mindee.
But big mindee still the same. Wants this object/sweet/drink, "OOoooh look Sammy's ds macdonalds", can I sit upstairs on the bus/right at the back, Is very tiring TBH.
Have discussed this with aunt who mindee lives with and same with everyone.
Poor you, should be better weather tomorrow so you can get out for a bit. You say the 8yr old mindee lives with her aunt, does she have any parents? Only asking, as she sounds like she is very anxious and does not want to leave any carer out of her sight for one second in case they disapear and maybe she does not trust adults enough yet.
Ripeberry - mindee is being fostered by aunt, was taken from family home and has superised contact with mum. She is not a bad girl - she is lovely, so affectionate but just very high needs. Has never had any boundaries, never been taught to socialise, play, maintain friendships, etc.
I feel so sad for her, it must be like entering another world with all these rules we have!
Mindee is here 11 hour days 3 days a week during summer hols - I am worn out!