Hya Katie, drink lots of cranberry if you can and enjoy your hols. I'm finding it very difficult today to cope with the needs of my own children against those of my mindee (mindee wants to go to park after library - my own children don't want to go) finding that I spend all my time with mindees and my own children seem to get left out, everything that we do seems to be aimed at mindees. I can't get the balance right at all with feeling guilty
Hmm, that is a tricky spread of ages. I have no good ideas in that case! Not that I had many for alternate ages!
It is very tricky, but you just have to make them understand you do this job, for the good of them, so that when the midnees are not there you have some money to spend on them and that you are always around for school things for them.
Could you maybe arrange a trip to the park with their school friends and parents. (Not wht the 13 yr old wants, I'm sure!) but she could tag along with her mates and then wander off on their own.
Thanks for the replys ladies. We have made the most of going out with friends and their children virtually everyday since I started back-staying out nearly all day. I did wonder if the girls were getting bored with this and offered to stay at home but they get bored and start bickering which at the moment I just can't hack. The thought of sports club is very appealing but the whole day ones are very expensive and *3 I can't afford.
I did call their bluff a couple of school holidays ago by not working which meant that we couldn't afford to do anything, so they know and realise that I have to work. I do try very hard to make sure that we do something together when the mindees have gone like swimming/pictures etc and they do go to friends to play/hang out.
At the moment they are quite happily playing with mindee who has refused to eat the one healthy thing out of five items in her rubbish lunch box. (Prepared by parents not me)
im off on hols now until school goes back. really need the rest and time with kids (15 and 12). even they get fed up, 12 year old mainly though. i keep telling her if i dont work she wouldnt be able to do all her hobbies but its difficult at that age. legoland was good, very very expensive but mindees loved it and the weather was warm and dry. fab kitchen