I am considering going back to work and want some negative input to put me off of it. Any nightmare stories i should know? I just dont trust anyone with my child except me. At this rate the only job i am going to get is working in my own child's creche
I love mine - I don't worry about them at all during the day and I miss them so much that I spend all my free time devoted to them. If I had them all day they wouldn't get such attention from me I'm sure.
I think you should be asking questions about how you'll feel/copy with work not try to pass the responsibility onto an potential bad childminder.
your initial post seems a bit random! it's like me saying 'tell me about your nightmare dh stories so that you put me off getting married'! every childminder is different - except that in my rather clumsy comparison, childminders will have had to go through rather stringent checks and inspections, unlike prospective husbands! (what a good idea - ofsted for husbands)
forgive me, but you seem to be clutching at straws to try and think of reasons not to go back to work. Every mum worries that someone else won't look after their child the way they they will - and in some ways they won't - but the majority of childminders are wonderful, and it's a great way to start preparing yourself for the gradual letting-go you have to do as a parent.
Good luck - I'm sure it'll turn out fine.
so the general consensus is that nannies/childminders have been a benefit and you have no problems with them. Well thats good to hear. No I dont want to go back to work, said that in my first post. Will have to find another reason to not go back. Mind you, dont really need one, staying at home is such a fantastic opportunity to be with the kids and i will be forever grateful to the "gods" for allowing me to be with them. Its just that you hear nanny nightmare stories and I wanted to know how relevant that was in real life.