Hello I was wondering if I could have some advice or insight on what to do. Currently money is and always has been tight - I work four days a week and a close family member (grandparent) prior to birth offered to look after dd for one day a week for six hours. They said from the start they didn't want any money just time spent with dd - they are very good and dd adores said family member. However family member has been helping themselves to the odd £10/20 from dd piggy bank and last week helped themselves to a £50 giftcard that we've had since last August (birthday money going to buy a new summer coat) every time this has happened we've been promised they were just borrowing it but the money's never been replaced. I'm not sure how to handle this situation as it's started to be a regular occurrence and just looking for advice. Thank you x
I would wonder if they are in serious financial problems even if they appear to have money they may have run up a debt or been conned and too embarrassed to say anything. Id have the conversation about paying something for care (and hide the money) if they wont take it maybe get more serious - could memory problems be an issue?
If you specifically asked for the gift card back with a deadline what would they do? Eg 'I saw you took/borrowed the gift card, I'm planning on using it next weekend can you bring me the cash next [Tuesday] when you look after dc'. A direct but non confrontation way perhaps? You can ignore it but I suspect your frustration levels will grow each time and ultimately damage your relationship long term over 'minor' amounts. (Not minor to you though). Its the breach of trust that's the real issue imo.