Nanny troubles

There's nothing you've said in your OP that you couldn't say direct to her without damaging your relationship. Give it a try; I hope that she appreciates your concern and that you'll soon have your old nanny back!

OP - Can you think of anything that might be annoying her about her job? Typical things that nannies get annoyed about are not being paid on time, parents coming home late, house being in a mess from the night before when they arrive, dirty dishes in sink, being asked to do things that aren't in their job spec (like cleaning ovens), being asked to babysit at short notice.

or has anything changed about her job role recently.

If not, you just need to ask her if anything is bothering her as she doesn't seem as happy as she has been before. If she changes the subject, change it back again.

Have I read that correctly - you have never paid her? Is she working for free? Even if she is living in and getting her room and board she should still receive a weekly wage....this smacks of exploitation!

You have never paid her?!!!! Is she working for free or bed and board?

Oh! Is it your actual grandmother as opposed to a hired children's nanny?

Agree with optomist just have a chat and ask if she is feeling alright. Sit down with a cuppa and make it all about her, not a rushed "you alright?"

Do you mean a grandmother?

Hang on, are you talking about your Grandmother or a nanny who you have hired to look after your children?

Or do you mean you have never paid her to cook etc?

Do you means Nanny as short for Grandma? Is it your mum/MIL? Nanny generally means a childcare professional who looks after your children in your home.

Sigh. Um, if she's your granny, sit her down with a nice cuppa and ask if there's anything bothering her that you can help with.

If she's not your granny, much the same, but ask specifically whether there's anything about the work/house/DC which is on her mind.

Maybe she's dreaming about what she could do with the money if you actually paid her?

Is this entire thread a text predict fail? Did you mean Granny?

Or do you use your Granny as a Nanny and not pay her?

This is hilarious

you know youre on the childcare topic?

Are you talking about a dog ?

WHO IS SHE, OP?

Now that you've clarified a very misleading OP, Gwyneth I can tell you categorically that she's thinkg "All this cooking and going above and beyond is too much! I wish Gwyneth would realise that grandmothers are not the help - we're here to be cherished."

Did she clarify?

So she's a paid nanny (not a family member)who used to do extra work for free and has now stopped?

Maybe you have been taking advantage of her good nature and she's begun to realise it. Perhaps you should have offered benefits for all her extra work - an extra day off or a voucher - anything to let her know she's appreciated. You need to have an honest chat with her and discuss any issues.

I suspect she is either having problems in her life outside of work or is depressed.

If there are aspects of her job that she is not doing, you can raise them.gently.

I would also set some time aside when there are no distractions and ask her how she is and if there is anything you can do to help.

I'm still confused as to the set up here?
Is this a paid Nanny or a family member?