it's really hard to stay prefessional when sacking a nanny you're unhappy with

Oh dear... I suppose your daughter is perfect then?

Raise your kid yourself then

Lay out your issues?

A wee madam having a horrible tantrum (at 5 not 3) sounds like hard work. And she did say it to you and not the postman. She criticised the behaviour not the child by the sounds of it.

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She also said my daughter was unbearable whilst having a tantrum.

To be fair, other people's children are often pretty unbearable when they're having a tantrum. Calling her a "little madam" isn't the nicest turn of phrase. Presumably she's just telling you she's finding your daughter challenging and would like some back up from you regarding her behaviour and attitude?

If the arrangement isn't working for you, you're right to end it. I do wonder how realistic your expectations are for the "bonding" between your child and nanny.

Why was she thought to be unsuitable to start with?

What do you mean by "bonding"? If you mean a friendly relationship where your daughter will do as the nanny asks I agree. You sound as if you want the nanny to love your daughter as her own and overlook her faults. What are you expecting from the nanny?

On what grounds did she refuse to come when the eldest had chickenpox?

Ffs, do any of you actually use a nanny?

OP you're not alone, it's horrendous and I face it this week too. Awful.

Ah now, if I was nannying I would worry about looking after a sick and possibly contageous child - especially if I had kids myself or looked after elderly parents.

It's like sacking anyone else. I've not sacked a nanny but have let staff go.

Get new nanny lined up. With the old one, be factual, outline timescales, notice, references and severance pay. I'd want her to leave immediately.

You need to keep it factual. Presumably she has been with you less than 2 years. Is she still on probation etc? Does she think it us working?

You may not like hearing about your dd's behaviour like that but better than her bitching to other nannies or parents. Do you refer in similar terms perhaps? Will your dd behave better for others? If not be prepared for more of the same with future childcarers.

Of course it is. I've had to let people go that I have fought hard to keep. Also people who were complete pains in the backside and very litigious.

Get on with it. You are making this into a Big Thing. You don't like her, she hadn't harmed or abused the kids, and whinged to you about one child's behaviour. Nobody died.

Bizarre early responses.
She's not cut out to be a nanny, frankly.
She doesn't have a positive relationship with the children - which is a non-negotiable necessity, no ifs, no buts. She is ridiculously poor at managing her relationship with employers (who says what she said to parents - you - for goodness' sake!). She isn't willing to do the work a nanny, rather than a childminder, does, eg. Looking after chdren when ill. If you'd wanted a childminder, you'd have employed a (cheaper) childminder.

Take the emotion and drama out of it. It's not working. And use this experience to define - for yourself - the key skills you're looking for in a nanny.

Clue: positive relationships with children is utterly crucial. As is ability to look after them, even when ill. And to be able to communicate effectively with you: the parent/employer.

Mine has been bitching to other parents - MY friends. All about how she wouldn't let her child behave that way... She doesn't have any.
(This was about a 4 year old jumping on the sofa, something he's not done once in my care and I was a SAHM for all of his life until very recently).