Just that, really. Bit of an AIBU, but mostly just nosiness on my part. I've been friended by my nanny and I'm not sure whether to accept. I am a big girl and can make my own decisions but it just got me curious as to what is 'normal'.
I don't have my bosses on facebook and neither of us has even thought about adding the other. I was surprised when she came up as someone I might know and did laugh when I told her she'd come up on my Facebook and I had taken her profile pic! But nope I don't moan or put anything bad on there on work nor do I put photos of totally trashed at the weekends but still it's a private space and I would feel odd if she was on there.
Like guess I don't have my bosses on Facebook and it wouldn't occur to me to do so. I also don't post anything I wouldn't be happy for them to see and I'm not tagged in anything that could be deemed inappropriate it's simply that they are my bosses and we have a professional relationship so keep our social media that way too.
The nanny/employer relationship is an odd one, particularly if the nanny is live in - as I am - because you become very close to each other and the nanny is privy to some very intimate things e.g. the employer fetching breakfast in their pyjamas first thing in the morning, but I find not having my bosses on my social media is a good way of maintaining healthy professional boundaries.
I only have my bosses on Facebook once I no longer work for them. Never current employers as I think it blurs the relationship too much. Also I've only ever heard bad things about having bosses on Facebook. It is nice to have old bosses on Facebook though as a way of keeping in touch with the children.
I have always had a personal policy of not befriending people on social media who I employ! I started this when I was managing a team, and have carried it on with our au pairs, whom I now seem to befriend on facebook / follow on instagram after they've left us. I think although there probably wouldn't be a problem, it feels easier to me if our social media lives are separate.
I have the odd ex employer on but certainly wouldn't want a current employer. I don't do anything that would bother me if an employer saw but I think it kind of crosses a boundary between employer/friend. You need to be able to put your employer hat on at times and I think that's much harder if you're too friendly.
Blondes Unfortunately yes I do. I don't agree with it but the parents allow it (and are not friends with them) so it's my way of keeping an eye on them. To make sure they are not posting anything inappropriate or being bullied. I know their parents will be on it if they knew but also know that they don't check themselves😟
C was bullied quite a bit when he was 13/14, thankfully he is very thick skinned so a lot if it went right over his head but when it got bad and he was trying to sort it out himself, I called him and made him tell his mum. I would have called her myself if he hadn't but wanted to try to get him to tell her. I was very tempted to message the kid and tell him to stop that I'd beat him with a stick! but knew that would just make it worse.