We live in a tiny flat in central London, with only two rooms (one bedroom and one living room which we use as second bedroom). For now it's just me and DD, but we want to bring an au pair and don't know what would work best, if to give her my room or to put her in DD's bedroom (in another single bed). Whatever the case, one of us would have to sleep with DD. Thoughts?
This doesn't sound feasible at all unfortunately. What time will your dd go to bed? What will you do after that if you are in the living room which is now her/your bedroom? How can you watch tv, talk on the phone, do the ironing? And what will the aupair do? Will she be able to access her bedroom without going through your living room or go to the kitchen to make a coffee?
While the aupair may say she is happy with the arrangment now, it is easy for her to gloss over the practicalities in the exctement of living in central London. The reality when she is here may be far different.
Just get someone from the EU (save for Bulgaria/Romania - until the end of the year - and Croatia) and you don't have to worry about visas. There are so many European girls wanting to work in London you will be spoilt for choice.
Nobody I know hires an aupair using an aupair visa. That is a thing of the past now that demand from aupairs outstrips supply of host families, particularly in London, and employers have their pick of EU candidates with no such restrictions.
Whether you call her live-out aupair or unskilled nanny or mother's help is just semantics. You are free to agree whatever arrangement with her within the framework of employment laws. If she is live-out, the minimum wage applies but market forces dictate you will be likely to pay more for her to live-out than a live-in anyway because she bears the cost of food and board, even if she were an unskilled childcarer.
Farala- childminders aren't usually as much as £10 per hr even in central London. I live in zone 1 and most are £6.50-£8.50 an hour, but usually have a reduce rate for say before or after school. Ie 3-6 would be £25.50 at £8.50 an hour, but they will charge £20 for that after school duration. If only £6.50 then maybe £15 for 3-6pm. They are usually very good value IMO and many will cook dinner for children and help with homework saving you time in the evenings. £25 per day x5 would be £125. Probably cheaper than au pair by the time you pay say £90 p week, £20 for bus oyster to ferry child around, £20 for extra food/ electricity etc etc
I don't think AP arrangement is what you need but if you do go ahead with it then she should absolutely have her own room. In France they need to have their own bathroom too. They are absolutely entitled to to their privacy.
A nanny isn't always qualified, many aren't, I'm not. The 'au pair' you know isn't an au pair. The point of one is that they live in. As somebody else said, her employers are breaking the law if they are not paying her NMW as by living in it makes them exempt, not living out.
What name - a nanny doesn't live in or want to live in but still gets around £13 gross per hour in London
Op- are you saying that you have no other rooms once you and dd are in one and au pair in another? Ie no living room etc. Where is the au pair supposed to entertain child after school? I think you should look into before and after school care tbh as doesn't sound like you have space.
whatname she's either not living with the boyfriend (staying there, but not officially living there) or she's not an au pair. If you live-out you are not an au pair. Babysitter, mother's help, cleaner, PA maybe, not an au pair. If they're paying her 'pocket money' and not providing room and board they're breaking the law. If she lives out they're required to pay the minimum wage.
I can't quite see how you could fit 4 of you go two rooms. During the day, when she plays with your child she'd effectively be in your room? If she stays up watching tv in the sitting soon you can't go to bed? You won't have any private space at all away from her will you? Part of it is that they're to share the family experience.
We have a small house and have ruled an au pair out. It does seem as ever if you have money you can save money!