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What do your children call their nanny?

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sunnyshine Tue 02-Jul-13 12:49:22

I have a friend who has a nanny for her dd age 4. The child calls her "the nanny" not by her first name. So

The nanny is picking me up today

The nanny gave me lunch

Is this unusual as I would always have thought it would be first names?

ChippingInGoAndyGo Sat 06-Jul-13 10:15:52

That is really rude.

I wonder how long she'll last with them.

Cathyrina Sat 06-Jul-13 10:04:46

All my charges have always called me by my nickname, I introduce myself as 'I'm x, y's Nanny' and make sure that everyone calls me by my nickname including the parents etc. because everything else simply makes me feel very uncomfortable and I am honest and let them know about this! My current family have refused to call me by my nickname and call me 'the nanny' if other parents are over which I find really odd (glad it's only a temp role). I don't call them 'the employer' or 'the charge' either!

anewyear Fri 05-Jul-13 20:04:28

Ive heard a few of my Parents refer to friends, some of them mutual, Who Ive know longer than the parent!! as 'The Childminder'!

Rude IMO, Dont know why it gets to me, but it does?

nooka Thu 04-Jul-13 21:51:29

We only ever called or referred to our nannies by name, but we had a gap and then moved to a childminder when our children were at school, so they didn't often need to talk about her to anyone outside of family.

Is 'the nanny' much worse than 'our nanny'? It just sounds a bit archaic to me, like it should be capitalized - the one and only Nanny

squeaver Thu 04-Jul-13 21:29:48

Well, I know LOADS of not bratty at all children who have nannies and - while some of them do sometimes talk about "OUR nanny" - none of them ever refer to "THE nanny". Their parents would be horrified if they did.

Karoleann Thu 04-Jul-13 20:38:43

Our last but one nanny was called spade........not her real name of course, but something Eastern European that the kids couldn't pronounce.

Both our nanny and I gave up correcting then after a few months.

We still see her and the boys still call her spade!

T1tch85 Thu 04-Jul-13 10:04:20

I am nanny, they call me by first name or nanny t1tch85. Sometimes they'll say my nanny or the nanny to explain their relationship with me.

LadyIsabellaWrotham Wed 03-Jul-13 19:25:41

DCs always called her by her first name. I don't like "the nanny" from adults, let alone children. I use "X, the DC's nanny" if explanation is necessary.

Apart from anything else they call DMIL Nanny.

Fridayschild Wed 03-Jul-13 19:17:39

We use her first name.

DCs might refer to her as "our" nanny to distinguish her from the other various nannies and au pairs their friends have. But we never use "the".

And if I catch them being rude to her they are in lots of trouble. Pampered progengy need to learn to be polite to absolutely everyone in my book.

Bonsoir Wed 03-Jul-13 19:10:49

I think children sometimes refer to "the nanny" when they themselves are of an age when they don't need a nanny but there is a nanny in the family for younger DC, IYSWIM. Especially when the children referring to "the nanny" have never really been in her direct care.

NomDeClavier Wed 03-Jul-13 13:12:26

When I was a child I always called my nanny by her name but as bonsoir said outside the family it was 'my nanny', because it easily identified what she was in a way that Jane/Joan/Jean wouldn't.

'The' is odd IMO.

Jude89 Tue 02-Jul-13 22:58:03

I once introduced myself to a parent as "charge's nanny" and got horrified/appalled looks for weeks, until someone asked how old I was when his mum was born!

(Charge was 7, I was 23, there was no chance that I was his granny!)

EverybodysStressyEyed Tue 02-Jul-13 22:09:37

dd calls her by her name

ds does too unless he is talking about her and then it is 'our nanny' - but that is because he is very keen to differentiate her from me. Mummy's boy issues!

As a family we refer to her by name

HappyAsEyeAm Tue 02-Jul-13 22:03:03

By her first name.

Ds wouldn't realise that she was a nanny. He just thinks he is our friend. He calls my mum 'nanny', so it would be strange if that was what he called our nanny too!

SandStorm Tue 02-Jul-13 21:50:24

I've only ever had an after school nanny and dd was almost 10 at the time. She called her by her first name and it never occurred to me to call her anything else.

SaveWaterDrinkMalibu Tue 02-Jul-13 21:48:34

Older charge by name when talking to me. He tells school that I'm is nanny-mummy & sometimes tell his friends I'm nanny-mummy! He's only 4

Younger charge called me Dit (nothing like my name)

Mb/db call me by my nickname when around me or refer to me as 'nickname' the nanny

DreamGirly Tue 02-Jul-13 20:36:35

My 2year old charge introduces me to people as 'my Nanny Plum!' Ben and Holly have alot to answer for........

sweetsummerlove Tue 02-Jul-13 19:30:32

thats so rude! my charges call me by my name or nanny sweetsummerlove

badfaketan Tue 02-Jul-13 18:05:37

They call her by her first name.
Although sometimes my eldest refers to her as "Little Brother's Name's Childminder" as he is at pre-school and the nanny spends most of her time with his little brother.

I never refer to her as the nanny or the childminder though,just as First Name or "This is First Name and she helps me out with the kids."

Feel a bit self-conscious saying nanny in case people think it's a bit posh!

Reinette Tue 02-Jul-13 18:04:51

I'm either called by my name, a baby/toddler version of my name, or "Ms. (first name)" depending on the family. I'd be awfully offended to be called "the nanny," particularly by a child.

Bonsoir Tue 02-Jul-13 18:01:36

It's no better or worse to refer to "the nanny" than to refer to "the cleaner" or "the gardener" or "the chauffeur".

Bonsoir Tue 02-Jul-13 18:00:07

Children I know mostly refer to "my nanny" or "the nanny" when talking to people outside the family, but call the nanny by her first name to her face and when referring to her to close family members.

Blondeshavemorefun Tue 02-Jul-13 17:57:12

always been called blondes first name smile

tho i do have a friend who in one of her jobs she was called nanny, she seemed to like it, and even db/mb called her nanny, ' ask nanny if you can have abc' etc and kids would say 'nanny ........'

not said in a horrible way, but to me was weird, told her so as well

DalekInAFestiveJumper Tue 02-Jul-13 15:51:18

Where I live, nannies are less common, so no doubt my mileage varies. But the few I've known go by Miss Firstname or Mr. Firstname.

Callaird Tue 02-Jul-13 14:49:15

None of my previous (23) charges even knew I was their nanny! I still have a previous charges diary from when he first started school (he's 28) and in it he had written that he had come to stay with me for the weekend and what we had done. The teacher had written who is 'callaird'? He reply she's my 'callaird'! She asked if I was an Aunty/friend/relative, he thought everyone had a 'callaird'! Too cute. He has a 9 month old now and they call me nanny (as in granny) 'callaird'! Not impressed (or old enough to be a granny!)

I am always (a toddler variation of) my name.

I've worked for 'normal', titled and VIP families, none of them ever addressed me as 'the nanny' to the children or even to other people (in my hearing, at least) and I think I might have said something about being a person in my own right not a possession of theirs, like I did with the mother who told me at interview that I was her nanny and I wasn't to look after any other children, charges or family members, whilst I was employed buy her. I told her that that was fine whilst I was working but on my time off I would do whatever I pleased as long as it didn't affect my working hours. She offered me the job and before I accepted it, we had a very long chat about how I expected to be treated. I worked for her for 3 years and enjoyed (almost) every moment of it!

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