Thanks Little. We didn't use an agency so are on our own but DH & I will do it together. As she has been here so little time we were hoping to avoid paying her off but will keep that option as a back up. I'm nervous about the security at home as she has a key....
Do you have a probationary period in the contract.
Do any of the thing done fall under what is written in the Gross Misconduct section of the contract.
Paying notice is to end things quickly. You could take the key off them and send them home. Need to be careful about Wrongful Dismissal. You need to be fair. If you are not in the UK then look at what employment laws apply in your country.
As a nanny I would appreciate honesty. Tell her why and then what you are going to do and what you expect of her. So if its gross misconduct then instant dismissal and return of key on the spot. Alternatively she can either work notice or have notice paid but not work, again key returned on spot. Just make sure its all legal.
The contract had been reviewed by both of us but was waiting to be signed, subject to review by a lawyer. The lawyer had come back to me and we were going to add a probation period prior to signing, but had not yet done so. Thus we are in a grey area I believe.... It wasn't working for a number of reasons, details of which I won't post here in case she is on here too! It isn't fair to air it. Suffice to say over the period she was terrible at communicating, didnt listen to me, lied to me, seemed disinterested, ignored important parts of the unsigned contract re our rules and when we raised these issues got defensive and refused to discuss them. Unfortunately we no longer trusted her so she had to go. We couldn't go to work leaving our baby with someone we didn't trust. I wish her well but I would not recommend her although I am willing to accept she might be perfect for some mums, just not for me!. Unfortunately her behavior now sheds light on some of the comments made by her referees, which at the time seemed fine but take on a different meaning once there is context to place them in. My husband tells me I will have to refuse to give a reference if I am asked as I cannot give a bad one and so honesty is not the best policy.....
We have done the deed. It went surprisingly smoothly but she didn't ask any questions so I feel a little uneasy about it being a clean break. I wonder if she will have questions tomorrow..... In the meantime we have changed the locks. Thanks for the advice guys.
There are no rights of unfair dismissal if she has worked for you for less than a year (barring discrimination). If you have raised those issues before but no improvement, I would just pay her off to get rid quickly.
Well done. Agree that she needs paying off. Wouldn't be surprised if this weren't the first time this has happened to her, also wouldn't be surprised if she was the nanny we had to let go (no reference was ever requested).
Well it happened to us when we lived in Fulham - but she was all over the South East. I should have known, because there were lots of patches in her CV that were "between" jobs. I think she was fired a lot and paid off quite well and took benefits until the next job. She actually dazzled us on her interview, but then she knew exactly what to say to first time parents (as we were at the time). It'd be nice to think there was only one nanny out there doing this, but there may well be more, of course.
Trying2b, did you talk to her referees or just rely on a sheet of paper? I hire aupairs (not the same as nannies, I know) but I always insist on speaking to referees on the phone. You might find you get more information out that way. I have a killer question at the end: if your circumstances were the same, would you hire her again?
I did talk to the refs but unfortunately when you find the best out of a bad bunch & you really want to hire them you hear what you want to hear. & as a first timer you are at a disadvantage because you have no clue about how your life is about to change! I did ask the same killer question.... They all said something about their situation being different now so they would be looking for something different. DOH. Should have been a warning to me but I just didn't heed it. Next time....
Well you know at least that your super senses will be working if you ever meet another possible nanny for your child, having gone through this. And at least you have nipped it in the bud. That's two positives!