The childminder I use for DS1 (4) is an absolute star, he loves her. I couldn't ask for anything more.
I got a small bonus from work. I would like to do the same for her as without her, and the secure knowledge that she is looking after him, I wouldn't be able to give 100% to work. He only goes after school 2 x a week.
We are struggling financially so unlikely to be able to afford more than £30-50, as although bonus was unexpected it is needed (IYSWIM)
Would you feel this was a bit patronising? Wish I could do more, she's worth her weight in gold (I do tell her this, provide references, got thank you cards, gifts at Xmas etc)
It's a lovely thought. Personally I think I'd give a surprise gift - maybe a big bouquet for mothers day or a big Thorntons egg for Easter. If she knows you are not flush with cash she might feel obliged to refuse a cash bonus, but a gift "from your DS" would be different.
What a thoughtful parent you are. I certainly wouldn't expect and have never received a cash bonus, but if you want to do something, maybe a voucher for the local beauty salon may be appreciated, I know I would love it and I always love flowers.
I have received some nice gifts over the years from the least expected families, but the ones I really treasure and keep are the beautifully written cards, some have even written quotes about childcare in them, which moved me to tears.
I must admit I hate getting wine and especially chocolates, as only I know what I like, but always accept graciously!
We have given our CM gift vouchers like book tokens as we know she loves reading rather than cash. I would give her my left arm personally for the care she provides for my DD but I think cash might embarrass her?
Why not write a card saying - she's lovely, you really appreciate her, DS adores her etc Tell her that you got a little surprise bonus from work and as you couldn't do your job, without her, you'd like to share a little of it so she can treat herself too Even that you'd thought about flowers/chocolate etc, but would rather she chose something that she would enjoy. I can't see anyone objecting to that! I wouldn't, that's for sure!!
Are you going to be able to 'do something' with your bonus? Something where you can see what the money has gone towards or is it going to get put in the pot to pay the bills? It would be nice if you could do something, even if it's a bit of a boring something wouldn't it Depending on how much it is, I'd probably spend it on replacing the consumer unit (about £300) what we used to call the fuse box as it needs doing, but I'd still feel I'd 'done something' with it rather than paying the car tax, food shopping etc.
Well I've just had a shock this evening and had a cheque for £100 dropped round by a mindee (happens to me my birthday aswell as mindee's last day next Thursday as I'm finishing soon - she's 6 today and been with me since 8 weeks old!). I didn't realise about the cheque until she'd walked back to her car and I was in the house, if I'd been handed it and opened it in front of parents I probably would have passed it back as would feel bad. I must say that I've had vouchers in the past and been VERY grateful but I'm loving that I can just go and spend this on myself and can choose where to go (especially as this is my only present as we're so skint I told dh not to buy presents this year).
So I'd say vouchers are fine but so would cash but if you did that, maybe in a card that she might open when you're not there? My cheque was in an envelope saying 'the contents of this envelope MUST be used for lovely things' - so now I WILL treat myself instead of using it on the family like I normally would! .
Personally I would appiciate a small gift and a card with how you feel about me and my service. I keep a compliment and complaint book (no complaints so far) to show prospective parents and inspectors. It also helps when I have had a difficult day to reread the compliments to remember I am valued.
I know I would prefer cash but would probably end up spending it on groceries or towards bills. Vouchers would be lovely but even better would be vouchers for a meal or salon or afternoon tea, something unusual that shows you've really put thought into.
I have received flowers before but I suspect they were purchased on the company account, am I wrong and ungrateful to feel a bit put out that the flowers weren't 'bought' for me?