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mot15 Mon 01-Jul-19 14:26:00

I'm a sahm mum to toddler twins. I'm out with them every morning in mother and toddler groups and in the afternoons they nap then on one day they go to their grandparents and I work for the family business.
I'm worried they're missing out on not going to nursery (they're 1.5 years old).
Should I send them one day? I'm planning on going back to work part time (in my own career not the family business). Thanks

HennyPennyHorror Mon 01-Jul-19 14:44:01

They don't need nursery at this age. As long as YOU'RE happy at home with them....they're babies.

At this point, socialising with their own family is all that's necessary. Neither of mine went till' 3 and they're 11 and 14 now and fine!

HenSolo Mon 01-Jul-19 14:45:58

No. At 4 they will be off to school and that’s it. Enjoy (advice I wish I’d taken by the way, spent the whole of my time with my sons worrying about the same thing)

mot15 Mon 01-Jul-19 14:47:40

Great to hear your experiences. Thanks

mot15 Mon 01-Jul-19 15:07:48

Not happy being 100% at home with them. Feel like we're not moving forward as a family if that makes sense. I'm aiming to go back 2.5 days so I can be ready for when they go to school and I can work more.

HappyDinosaur Mon 01-Jul-19 15:11:36

I wouldn't say they were missing out, but my 13 month old definitely gets a lot out of it and really enjoys her 1 day a week. It'll also be an easing into a time when you work part time - for them and you!

Zillaindie Mon 01-Jul-19 15:14:53

Hope it's ok to follow OP as I am in pretty much the exact situation with my twins (also 1.5yrs)

I work in the evenings when DP gets home so they are always with a parent.
We manage 1/2 morning groups. I have started enquiring about a few local playgroups they can attend for a few mornings a week from when they are 2 but do feel they are missing out on interacting with other children and adults.

mot15 Mon 01-Jul-19 15:17:20

Hi! Always nice to hear from someone in the same situation. Dm if you want. How are you finding being a twin parent? They are my first.

APurpleSquirrel Mon 01-Jul-19 15:19:13

Both my DC have gone to nursery once I started back at work - they started on 1 day a week, and then we gradually increased it so they became more used to being away from us in preparation for school.
Nursery can provide a lot of additional interaction that it would just be too hard/expensive to replicate at home. As well as the social interaction with other children, and adults, all of the activities they offer, outings, walks, cooking, forest school etc.
If you want to return to work, then don't feel guilty about using a nursery. My DD is starting reception in September and nursery has been great for her.

mot15 Mon 01-Jul-19 15:32:01

I do feel guilty 🙈

BikeRunSki Mon 01-Jul-19 15:37:44

Will you qualify for early years nursery funding when they are 2? (It’s means tested) -admiring you are in the UK. Then all children do the term after they turn 3.

mot15 Mon 01-Jul-19 15:40:16

Oh right never heard of that. I'll google. Thank you

APurpleSquirrel Mon 01-Jul-19 15:46:09

It will be hard to start of with - it's an adjustment for you all, but it is worth it if that's what you want/need to do.
Many parents use some form of childcare - nursery, child minder, pre-school etc. The feelings of will guilt lessen, and the good thing with twins is that they have each other too.

mot15 Mon 01-Jul-19 15:48:49

Thanks for that - so true.

BikeRunSki Mon 01-Jul-19 20:37:56

Early years funding for 2 year olds
Earjy years funding for 3 and 4 year olds

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