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Try for second baby then surgery on bladder following severe incontinence/prolapse from 1st birth

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PDR Mon 09-Nov-09 16:23:56

I was told today that I have a prolapse and I would not be able to have more than 1 more baby.

My GP said I would need surgery then and would not be able to have a 3rd child.

I was in a bit of shock and didn't ask a lot of questions but now I am wishing I did.

She said there is no point doing anything now if I want a 2nd child but I should TTC asap (already trying....)

She didnt refer me to a specialist or even mention this.

She said the surgery was quite complicated and not just a simple proceedure.

I have quite bad stress incontinence now and I cannot do a "number 2" without using my hand to press down on my perineum blush.

Sorry TMI!

Has anyone been through this or similar?

slushy06 Mon 09-Nov-09 16:45:36

I was having the same problems as you after dds birth 4 months ago. About a month ago I was told to do a 100 pelvic floors a day no staining or heavy lifting and that they wouldn't give surgery till after I had finished having kids.

Although my ladybits still require alot of work I am unable to have sex due to pain caused I only need to pee about twice a night now and I can do a poo so mine have improved with just taking it easy and pelvic floors but I suppose it depends on the severity yours may be worse than mine or a prolapse in a different place.

I would maybe try a second opinion and hopefully you will get a much more positive outcome.

PDR Mon 09-Nov-09 16:48:49

Hi slushy06 thanks for your reply.

Did your GP refer you to a specialist?

I have been keeping this quiet for a long time (DS is almost 18 months) !!!

slushy06 Mon 09-Nov-09 17:59:23

I was referred through about 5 specialists and the senior consultant sent me home saying there was nothing wrong. So I went back and my gp gave me the advice as I said I didn't want to be referred all through the system again to be told by some idiot that there was nothing wrong.

PDR Mon 09-Nov-09 18:09:48

OK so maybe my GP was doing me a favour not referring me lol!

Feeling a bit better now. Thank you

slushy06 Mon 09-Nov-09 18:26:28

No with me it was more as I have just had a baby they keep sending me up to post natal who don't know how to deal with it so send me somewhere else when really you need to see gyni.

At one point I was in the hospital all that separated me from about 10 pg women waiting was a curtain and while examining me they kept calling over people in by the end I had two mw 2 registrar's and a consultant all examining me, and gasping as at the time I also had a very severe allergic reaction and was covered in about 20 sores the size of 5 pence pieces.

when I went out all the pg ladies looked absolutely terrified all I could do was laugh I am not sure my dignity will ever recover.

They even made me go on all fours and my loss had not stopped yet so I was v blush and it was a case of laugh or cry. But now I find the image amusing.

I cant believe you have put up with it so long though poor you don't let them make you suffer any longer.

PDR Mon 09-Nov-09 18:36:49

One thing which is puzzling me is that she said I wouldn't be able to have a 3rd child and I'm not sure exactly why.

At the end of the convo I asked her what would happen if I did accidentally get pg a 3rd time or wanted another baby later down the line (I'm only 24) and she said it wouldn't be advisable but it would be ok. I then said "well I guess I could just have a c-section" and she just said "yeah" or something.

So basically, can I have a 3rd child or not? [confused]

I have been reading on the t'internet that often a hysterectomy is performed as part of the "repair" but she didn't say this to me (I don't think).

slushy06 Mon 09-Nov-09 18:47:20

I wasn't told of this but what was said was they would not operate as if I had a child it would undo their work.

Mine is a front wall prolapse the wall that holds up your bladder. But you might be talking about what my nan had done in which as her age she had a womb prolapse and due to her age gave her a hysterectomy as she would probably be unable to repair the muscles enough to support her womb however.

If you are young they tend to keep the hysterectomy as a last resort if your womb has prolapsed first trying a ring to hold it in place while you build up the muscle enough to support it.

I would defo ask for another opinion and make sure they explain everything exactly why you wont be having a third child.

slushy06 Mon 09-Nov-09 18:48:51

Although I cant see why you cant have a third if you can have a second.

PDR Mon 09-Nov-09 18:49:43

Ok thank you.

I wasn't expecting this news, I went alone and didn't really ask the right questions as I was in shock shock!

I will make another appointment for next week....

slushy06 Mon 09-Nov-09 18:52:56

I would write the questions down and ask them then so you cant forgot as it is hard to remember what you wanted to know when you get in there. Good luck I hope all goes well.

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