My second baby could arrive at any minute now, and I am getting more and more worried about visitors, particularly my ILs.
They are absolutely lovely, but they can be overpowering, especialy FIL. Eg the other day DD was going to her dance class, he turned up, let himself into our house, took her lunch off her and put the plate in the sink (still with spaghetti and toast on it, thus making more work in cleaning up the sink etc) put her tap shoes on her (even though I have told him many times that I like her to wear her outdoor shoes on the way to dancing so the tap shoes don't get worn out and she doesn't slip) and generally moved things about in my house (such as laying a bathroom towel over a puddle where she had an accident while I was out of the room, so I didn't notice to clean it until later). After the lesson, he asked DD (not me) if she wanted to come round to his for biscuits and to play with some new toys, and didn't return her until a couple of minutes before bedtime, and he had told her she was having a bath that night, without warning me, so I had to distract her while the water heated up (about an hour) and she was having tantrums because she was tired but he had been telling her how fun her bath was going to be.
So, he was being helpful, and I am grateful for that, but I can just see him being overpowering like that with the newborn as well, and not sure how I will cope when tired and recovering from a section.
I'm also worried that both sets of grandparents are going to turn up at the hospital when I am still catheterized and immobile, not to mention full of drugs, and fuss and mess and generally irritate me when I will just want to lie there, chat with DP and stare at our new baby.
DP suggests inventing some "useful" errands for his parents, eg going to the supermarket for us or taking DD to playgroup. He won't get any paternity leave because he is new to his job, but my mum will probably be coming for the first few days I am out of hospital (I don't mind her in the house, as we are close enough for me to be able to tell her if she is annoying me)
I know I will need help after a section, and I am very grateful to have them, I just don't want to end up snapping and shouting at them!
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LissyGlitter · 26/10/2009 13:02
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