Reducing pain and stress during labour. Why don't they listen?

[rayner]

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[JamesAndTheGiantBanana]

Sounds a bit simplistic, although I'm sure you have our best interests at heart, and it may be worth looking into.

Can I ask how you made her "very angry"? was this something you had arranged to happen beforehand? it could be argued that making a labouring woman very angry might add to her stress.

[Hormonesnomore]

I found screaming vocalising helped me cope with the pain when I was in labour with dc2 - until the midwife told me in no uncertain terms to keep the noise down! I can't see this working in a hospital somehow and as houses aren't sound-proof, it would be a bit distressing for others at home too.

[doulalc]

I practiced in Hawaii as well. Where did she give birth? We encourage vocalisation...many women find it offers a calming effect and can help move things along.

[JamesAndTheGiantBanana]

Don't know why the op has had his message deleted.

[merryberry]

it was an advert wasn't it? i remember glancing it at it and thinking i shld tell teh towers posing as a non-commercial post. must have been distracted

[EccentricaGallumbits]

is op and pete one and the same person?

[Flibbertyjibbet]

Thanks for that, a man trying to scare us off labour anasthetics.

What kind of strenuous excersise do you recommend for women in labour then? Presumably labour stops during the strenuous excersise because you say that labour can recommence after it....

Dear dear me.

Will your wife be getting out to run laps round the hospital grounds when labour gets stressful and painful then?

[Flibbertyjibbet]

I thought that too eccentrica.

Like lolatheshowgirl the other week saying she was in touch with the 'other poster' and posting for her.

Some people really insult my intelligence.

[Hormonesnomore]

Well, I had a break during labour when I did a bit of strenuous digging in the hospital garden, after which, a bit of energetic DIY, then I allowed labour to recommence - didn't feel a thing! It's all in the mind ladies!!

[JamesAndTheGiantBanana]

Op and Pete's posting style exactly the same.

FYI the op said he made his wife very angry during labour. I wonder what the disturbing long-term negative effects are of upsetting a labouring woman so you can try your own batshit childbirth theories out on her?

Tell you what pete/op, go grow your own vagina and when you have to force something the size of a handbag out of it, instead of pain relief, get someone to upset you. See if it helps.

[CurryMaid]

Oh do run along now Pete there's a love.

Some of us would rather do it with pain relief. Ok?

[EccentricaGallumbits]

surely it would be the women delighted by the thought of analgesics/anaesthetics rather than the physicians? why would they be delighted?
And surely strenuous exercise releases adrenalin rather than suppressing it, therefore further inhibiting release of oxytocin?
And women in labour having an experience similar to shitting a bus often feel a bit cross when it is suggested they don't shout.

weird statements.

[CurryMaid]

God nothing gets on my tits more than somebody who has never given birth giving sermons on how to do it properly.

[mummiesnet]

Matieu if that is you then do bugger of back to She-rah now, there's a love.

[Flibbertyjibbet]

I wonder if mumsnet would put the original post back on as I missed it

Could someone tell me the gist?

Was it..

man thinks woman is being a wuss in labour. Has read a book that says if a woman is angry she won't feel the pain, so he does something to make her angry (dp pushing my hair out of my face slightly wrong did it for me ), she gets angry , baby pops out and therefore it must work?

tosser

[JamesAndTheGiantBanana]

Yeah it wasn't far off that FG, I think he said something along the lines of "My wife gave birth in Hawaii, and (something like) they didn't listen when I said we didn't need pain relief, so I made my wife really angry and she had an adrenaline rush, squatted down and pushed the baby out, pain free - I'm trying to circulate this knowledge so that pain relief is rendered unnecessary"

There was probably more but I can't remember.

[merryberry]

a whole new angle to firing babies then ...

[JodieO]

So Pete, is that what you did when you gave birth? Oh, wait...... Guess not, try shitting a watermelon and we can talk again. Or, failing that, let someone hit your balls hard every minute for a few hours and see if you are ok to be quiet and calm about it.

[Flibbertyjibbet]

lolololol

I suspect it was the fact that her husband was saying 'no WE don't need any pain relief' that made his missus so angry.

[JamesAndTheGiantBanana]

Ooh, nice flounce.