I would be very grateful for any advice or to hear from anyone in the same situation.
I gave birth to my second child in June last year via VBAC. Labour was long but straightforward, second stage lasted 40 mins and I got 2nd degree tears (i.e.not great but nothing really major)
Sex has been impossible since our first attempt about 3 months after birth. Basically, to get straight to point, penetration is impossible! Everything is seized up rigid and if DH pushes really gently I scream in pain...
I have been to the GP four times. She says my stitches have healed up fine and is convinced I have some sort of infections (even though all swabs, taken "blind" as it was too painful to insert speculum, have come back negative) I have been on 3 courses of antibiotics, none of which have helped.
Her other theory is that when I stop breastfeeding, everything will return to normal. It's true that sex was a bit uncomfortable when I was breastfeeding my first child (as I seemed, ahem, a bit dry) but nothing like this! At least we could have sex!
A friend has suggested that this all inmy head and I may need psycho-sexual counselling...another aquaintance, a GP herself, muttered darkly about "nerve damage" from the birth and that I should be referred to a gynecologist
This is REALLY getting me down now. I feel like a totally useless wife, DH is a total star and has been infinitely patient but this is ridiculous...Am also starting to worry there is something seriously wrong with me and things will never be the same again
Any advice or "Me too, my fanjo's broken!" stories gratefully received...
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Help! Sex still agonising 7 months after birth :-(
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MmeMoufle · 12/01/2009 15:47
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