Hi
I had DS 9 months ago and had a ventouse delivery resulting in an episiostomy and a second degree tear. Stitches were checked at a week and four weeks post natal by 2 different mws who both said I had been v well stitched indeed. Not too tight, very well done.
We braved sex 2 months after the birth and it was uncomfortable although not painful, a bit like being a virgin again. Since then it's not really any better.
I'm not BFing so there's not an issue of being dry. We use some lube but basically and sorry if TMI it feels as if the area around where I was stitched is being rubbed raw with the thrusting.
Also, various positions are out, well basically most are out except for missionary as it feels like too much pressure on the perineum, like my scar might rupture. Not painful but kind of uncomfortable stretching of the scar.
So I can't relax/get into it, so I'm all frigid and dry, so it's uncomfortable. I feel like I'm forcing myself into it in the hope I just need to do it more often to get in the mood but it's just uncomfortable (and I stress, not painful as such).
It's been 9 months now and I'm worried it'll never get any better. I've had a look with a mirror and it all looks v neat and tidy and nicely healed.
Don't even know why I'm posting this really. Just needed to tell someone.
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Uncomfortable sex after 2nd degree tear.......getting me down now
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sorefange · 10/01/2009 10:39
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