Hi I am due with dd in 4 weeks. When I had ds 3 years ago dh took 2 weeks paternity leave and at the end felt a bit like he had wasted his time as we had so many visitors that he seemed to spend the whole 2 weeks making cups of tea. This time he is thinking of maybe only taking a week or 10 days depending of course on what day of the week she decides to arrive. I suppose what I am asking is with your 2nd dc how much paternity leave did your dh/dp take and was it better to have them around to help with your first child while you are recovering from the birth?
DH split his - so had one week with me for the first week, and then back for the third week. My mum came for the second week. It worked really well. It was nice to have someone to help with dc1, as I couldn't really.
dh takes 4weeks - 2wks paternity and 2wks annual leave. we didn't get so many visitors the second time around so the house wsan't like picadilly circus. expecting the same in october when number 3 arrives.
We are on number 3 and breaking it up is def best had baby on Tuesday and have not seen hubby for visitors so he was back at work today and will have next week off when all has calmed down then another weeks in a few weeks times when I am running on empty!
I had my first dd 7 weeks ago and dp took 2 weeks off. We got on great for the first week then it went down hill and I couldnt wait for him to go back to work so I could get organised!! I wish he had only had a week and saved the other week for later. He is taking another week in 4 weeks time. Good luck x
With ds hubby took 2 weeks paternity leave which was fine.
This time (I am due on Sunday) he is also taking 2 weeks off but he hasn't taken very much holiday leave this year so far and is planning on taking a couple of days off every few weeks. I hope this works as planned as it will be a great help for me!
With DS1, 6 weeks in total! 2 weeks official paternity leave and 4 weeks stored up holiday. Luckily it was mostly in August so he could do that.
This time probably 4 weeks, 2 of paternity and 2 of holiday.
I am a lucky woman. But also don't know how people manage with partners who don't/can't. I guess we would have all survived if DP hadn't been around, but bfing would almost certainly have gone out the window as it was so difficult and took all my energy to begin with.
10 days with my first (c section) and about the same with DD. 3 weeks after the twins (c section again), some being compassionate as birth was hideous and one twin was very ill in SCBU.Could have done with more as I was still ill when he went back.
My DP took 2 weeks off. I had an ECS and didn't see the point in him taking time off when DS was in hospital as I had my mum etc. So he took the 2nd week off and 4th week can't remember why that happened but it worked for us.