Not sure this makes any sense, but i just found myself crying while holding sleeping ds (5.5 months) and still when cleaning the bathroom after.
He was born in theatre with rotational forceps after a long labour. Apgars were 9,10,10 and he did really well despite lots of meconium.
After 12 hours he went blue and it turned out he was fitting. Before we knew it he was in an incubator in NICU, ventilated and soon sedated by a cocktail of drugs. Scans showed that he sustained brain damage and various scenarios were outlined. So far he has defied all expectations and is a very happy smily chatty normal little man. He rolls front to back all the time, almost sits alone, can stand holding your fingers, talks, giggles, is getting to grips with solids and most importantly, despite predictions of blindness sees very well indeed.
So why am I so sad? I feel I am grieving for the sense of innocence of the first hours after the birth, when life seemed so fantastic and amazing. Taking him home after three weeks was terrifying rather than rosy as I was so scared of the fits (that never returned btw). I feel that innocence will not return, as any further pregnancies (and I hope for two more) will be marked by extra checks, scans, probably a caesarian and lots of worry.
Not sure why i am writing all this, but I am home alone and it feels good to write it down. So don't feel you have to reply
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feeling sad - grieving for the innocence of the first few hours
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madmouse · 17/07/2008 21:15
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