I had DS at the end of march, but somehow i have not been able to do this till now.
I phoned the hospital and complained and today htey finally phoned me back and said: yes they were crap, they appologiesed, etc.
Somehow this has validated my feelings. It really was as bad as I thought, I didn't just imagine it. so here goes:
My baby was 2 weeks overdue so I went into the hospital on the sunday night for an induction. They gave me the gell, but it didn't do anything proper. I was having contractions, strong enough that they couldn't give me more gell, but not strong enough to actually push me into labour.
Monday evening, they gave me a second, big dose of the gell. My bits were really sore by then, what with an adverse reaction to it previously but I was desperate to have my baby.
Things started happeneing pretty quickly I was in a lot of pain and asked for pain relief, only to be told "you have had your paracetamol".
When the shift changed, the new midwife agreed to give me gass and air, gas and air don't work for me!!
Well, they lower my inhibitions enough that I started screaming, very loudly, but that was it.
I am told that I was examined and found to be 3cm dilated (an hour and a half later I was pushing)! and then was left on the maternity ward to scream.
I had three other women in the room with me, plus their partners, parents, IL's etc.
The baby monitor was left on me, I was in so much pain I actually tore it off at one point.
It did however run out of paper for half an hour (which no-one noticed)
I was not coherent in any way at all, I was saying things I still don't want to remember, things related to my past and how the people who made me feel so crap about myself must have been right, I coudln't do this, I wasn't good enough, please, please just make it stop.
My husband, was trying to push the gas and air on me as they told him it would help (it didn't)
Eventually someone passing from the labour ward (I was still on the maternity ward) heard me screaming and came and checked the monitor. She noticed that the babies heart rate was lower than mine.
I was finally moved to the labour ward, not because they had realised I was fully dilated and pushing, but because my baby was in trouble.
Now to be fair, on the labour ward they were very good.
I arrived there and begged for an epidural, the midwife agreed, but wanted to to examine me first, she took one look at me and pushed a button and suddenly there were 6 people in the room and I was being told to push.
There was no time for any pain relif, the doctor talked about an emergency c-section, but they didn't really have time for that either, DS had to come out, and he had to come out NOW.
They tried to break the waters but for some reason couldn't/didn't. Instead they but me, put the vontuuse on his head.
IT was 11.58pm and the doctor said, do you want this baby on the 31st or the 1st (april fools day). Me and DH both said "the 31st). Well push said the doctor, and out he popped!
There was meconium in his waters and they had to work on him for a few minutes, but he was fine, a big, beautiful baby boy. His now 15 weeks and probably well over 16lb (we last had him weighed two weeks ago).
Having him is the best thing that ever happened to me, giving birth was the worst experiance of my entire life.
I have just been told by the hospital that if we do have another child I am unlikely to be allowed a c-section, that is something we will have to deal with if an when we look at having another child. IF this labour was only 4 hours, the next one can only be quicker, however at least they have acknowledged that their care was inadequate.
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AnguaVonUberwald · 15/07/2008 12:17
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