Nope, I had one for my first (grrr) but told my obgyn that I didn't want one if at all poss for my second. I did tear a tiny bit, but didn't feel it at all, not like the episiotomy which the male doc did with no anaesthetic and without my consent - it hurt way more than giving birth!
Hmm, I've had the opposite experience. DS1's birth was an episiotomy and healed really quickly. He had a really big head too. For DS2, I listened to the midwifes and ended up with a 2nd tear that is not healing, including a very sensitive skin tag that is still bleeding 6 weeks post-partumn, looks like a train wreck, and still hurts. DS2 had a big head (36 cm) but not obscenely big. I am really regretting not sticking to my request to have another elective epis rather than giving in to the midwives.
It's not necessarily true - although I've had three so am not the best example of that! The midwife I had with dd3 was most reluctant to cut and we had a really nice chat about it when I got to the hospital in labour. My view was that I expected to need one and was fine with that, hers was that she would read through my notes and really try not to - but in the end she did have to and it was fine. I was actually thrilled as with my two previous births I'd had a cut and a tear - with dd3 I just had the cut. The midwives (and dh) plainly thought I was completely high on baby euphoria to be pleased about my third episiotomy but they've always healed well so it doesn't bother me. Definately not having any more though - babies or epis - there is only so much embroidery one woman can take!
I must be the lucky one then! I had episiotomy with ds1 and loads of stitches. Really worried about it leading up to the birth of ds2 but fortunately no episiotomy and no tear's at all. I was amazed that i could actually sit down properly straight after the birth!
No for me too. Epi for dd. Tiny 1st degree tear with ds, who was a big baby with a big head. Be warned though, if, like me, you had local anaesthetic when you had the episiotomy, the pain of crowning may come as somewhat of a shock...