age gap between kids

[mummy2t]

hi all, have ds1 5 in dec, ds2 nearly 5 months and dh and i are talking about trying again, are we insane???? what kind of age gaps have you all got between kids?

[brightandshiny]

DD will be 3 in august
DS will be 2 in october
Bump is 1 week over due.

Yes I do feel slightly insane but that could be hormones

[DanJARMouse]

DD1 4 in 2 weeks time
DD2 3 in October
DS 1 in November

tired? YES worth it? DEFFO

[juuule]

Age gaps between my children

2y9m
16m
15m
2y5m
20m
17m
23m
3y4m

[Flum]

2yrs 4 mths is the [erfect age gap and our gap between our three is exactly that. I think by that age, you have got them out of nappies and they might even sit and colour, do a puzzle, look at a book or watch Teletubbies for 20 minutes without demanding attention, and that is how long you need to feed a newborn innit.

[Nemoandthefishes]

not insane I have ds who is 4.8yrs,dd1 2.6yrs and dd2 1.6yrs it is insanse but fab

[Nemoandthefishes]

oops meant to say chaotic but fab..lol

[mummy2t]

omg, how are you coping??
i thought all hell would break loose when ds2 was born but its surprisly easy! hence wanting to try again for number 3

[aGalChangedHerName]

Ds1 17 in September

Ds2 13 in December

Dd1 4 in August

Dd2 2 in August

Mostly fine but a teen tantrum plus toddler meltdown is hard work lol

[mummy2t]

omg dealing with teenagers and toddlers at same time, hats of 2 you agalchangedhername!!

[aGalChangedHerName]

Lol mummy2t luckily for me my eldest has gone through most of the teen stuff(always been quite sensible actually) so it's my ds2 that is having strops atm.

Dd's are mostly ok too and the ds's do help out a lot with their sisters. Would love another but DH has had the snip so just enjoying the lovely dc we have

[ChippyMinton]

Gaps here are:
12 months 3 weeks
15 months
I'd say go for it, you will reap the rewards later when they are so close.

[Evelynsmum]

I think that whatever age gap you end up with you make the best of it. You just have to do what feels right.

All being well with bump there will be 2 years 9 months between mine and I think thats perfect .

[fruitful]

Was the 4-year gap by choice? Because if not, yes, start trying now!

Otherwise... How do you feel about double buggies? Two in nappies? Two not walking? Two at the tantrum stage together?

How would you be coping if your ds2 had colic / needed to be held all the time / took an hour over each feed / stayed up all night? Perhaps he does, I don't know!

Was your pg straightforward? Small age gaps aren't so good if you've had a cs or may end up in hospital.

You may be guessing that I like a bigger age gap (2y9mo twice).

OTOH, I'm already struggling to cope with them all wanting/needing to do different things at the same time (they are 6,3, and 7 months).

[MKG]

There are 21 months between ds1 and ds2 and there will be 21 months between ds2 and dc3 when it's born in March.

I think it's a great age gap.

[popsycal]

ds3 due in sept when ds1 will have just turned 6 and ds2 will have just turned 3 and a half

[popsycal]

so gaps of 2.5 years then 3.5 years

[missmama]

DS1 10
DS2 7 1/2

Perfect age gap everything worked smoothly.

DC3 due Dec 08

Dont know how this will work out.

[Blocky]

DS1 - !2, DS2 - 2.

They are both prone to moody tantrums (onset of teens and terrible two's), fight like cat and dog but absolutely adore each other.

[Tas1]

DD1 is 23
DD2 is 13
DD3 is 11
DD4 is 5

[4andnotout]

DD1 6
DD2 3
DD3 9 MONTHS
DD4 25 GESTATION

[Elmosgirl]

I have 18 months between mine, was pregnant when DD1 was about 8 months old. DD2 now 4 months and all fine so far and really glad I had them close together,

[4andnotout]

25 week gestation obviously

[allgonebellyup]

Juuule, are you for real??????????

[allgonebellyup]

no, just read your kids ages/gaps, it is all physically impossible!

[Qally]

Why impossible, allgonebellyup? If Juuule started having babies at 24 and stopped at 40 that would fit, no? Admittedly my maths is shaky, but at a rough reckoning that's 8 kids in about 16 years of childbearing - very unusual, but not unheard of/impossible. (Though the very thought makes me want to go and lie down for a decade. Big families must take tougher women than me to create!)

I think the ideal gap depends on the family & personalities of the kids involved - which is kind of hard to create a rule for!