Hi there didn't know quite what to call this thread - deliberately avoided use of the word "pain" because I know that some women's experience of birth doesn't feel painful - just extremely intense and hard work! I mention my own experience quite graphically so if you don't want to know stop reading now!!
I just ended up having a 2nd CS after going for a Home VBAC. I read every book going on the subject including "Grantly "is it meant to hurt?"Dick Read" Ina May Gaskin's Spiritual Midwifery and Guide to Childbirth, Sheila Kitzinger, Michael Odent (I was going for a waterbirth) and quite a few others. I did Maggie Howell's hypnotherapy for VBAC Cds and prepared myself or so I thought to really go for it. I never once thought that it wouldn't hurt because I thought that that was an unrealistic expectation - I just thought I would be able to go with it and visualise through it and keep positive. I also envisaged a pain coming round my stomach and uterus and maybe round my lower back.
Come the hour though I had a slow and long labour and from the very first sensation I got a shock - the sensation wasn't where I thought it should be - I felt everything in my back-passage - at first I thought I must be constipated and so started glugging down the prune juice - but that didn't alleviate it - all that happened as the labour went on was that these pains came closer and longer but not in a regular fashion -I was on my 3rd nite's lack of sleep when I couldn't take anymore - in over 24hrs I had gone from 4-5cms (and it had taken me over 40 hours to get to 3cms)
Now my baby did end up posterior but wasn't for 80% of the labour - but her head was deflexed and that might have been the case all the way through - could that have caused the sensation I had? I am holding my gorgeous girl in my arms as I write - she's 15 wks old and I just want to say that I enjoyed my labour - I had my partner and a doula we danced around the living room and I had fantastcally supportive midwives - when the pool did nothing for me and I nearly fell off the birthball cos I was nodding off with exhaustion I felt it was my decision to throw in the towel which was very important as a vbac-er.
Months on from the birth I am now thinking was I just a wimp - was this the pain of childbirth that other women get through and cope with and I just couldn't handle it? Or was my pain unusual - do women out there have experience of different labours - one being more painful than others or felt in different places? I have heard some women describe those first contractions as "niggling period- pains" - I never got any of them - it felt full-on painful from the start.
I don't think I could have done anything differently _ I was at home, relaxed, happy, mobile using loads of different positions, birth pool, birth ball and massage and towards the very end gas and air. The only thing I can think of is that I thought at times that "something was wrong" because it felt so odd it never felt like those waves I'd visualised or surges - just accute, stabbing in the back-passage(sorry if this is TMI)- maybe this held me back? I never felt as if the contractions were bringing the baby down. As it was she was deflexed and posterior maybe if I had continued (although I felt I couldn't for another second after 3 days) she would have ended up distressed.
I ended up having a "good" CS - I had that "birth moment" of joy on seeing my little girl and the sweet relief from the pain was ecstasy!! Totally unlike the blind panic and fear of my first emergency CS!
So having had an experience of labour for which I am grateful I would just like to know how other women experienced the sensations? I am also curious as to whether your experiences of period pain resembled your labour sensations in anyway. Personally I have always been lucky on this front never really experiencing much in the way of cramps - although i do often experience the stabbing pain during a bowel movement like the one I had during labour when i have my period.
I'm sorry to have gone on but I am just sooo curious about this issue and thought this would be a good place to ask. Once again I would like to say that although the pain for me personally was too much I am so glad that I went for this homebirth and am glad that I now have at least some experience of the whole labour thang! Thanks.
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Discussing the sensations of childbirth
glasjam · 17/10/2007 14:05
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