My first & only child was born 18 months ago in a rubbish birth, to put it lightly. Theatre, forceps, grumpy doctors & midwives, no fond memories, however that didn't bother me compared to the shit show that next happened. 7 hours after the birth, my baby began having seizures & was rushed to ICU where she stayed for three days until an MRI confirmed she had had a stroke. We got home 16 days later. She is amazing & doing fine. However I found the experience incredibly utterly traumatic. Not just the hospital experience, but getting home, being a new mum, feeling so anxious I don't know how I survived. Anyway. We have spoken about having another baby. My OH says he can't go through that again, & I partially agree but I also find it so sad as I had always wanted 2 or 3 kids. But now I know I would be so anxious they would be poorly, or something similar would happen. Has anyone any experience of this? Any thoughts or feelings? Life is all about risk & anyone having a baby will never know till it's here if it'll be 100% healthy or not, but having had such a terrible experience I'm clearly going to think more on the pessimistic side. I'm so envious of people who just get to go in to hospital & have a baby, come home & then have more & not give it a thought (my Mum agrees, I'm one of 5) I think as no one can tell us why she had a stroke either, I can't put it to bed. I just wondered what people's thoughts were. Sorry for the very long ramble
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