Am 29 wks preg with No2 - No1 was elective section due to being breech. Am thinking of having a VBAC but terrified of tearing or being cut. Just wondered what the stats were and if I'm being panicky for no reason.
Not sure about this one but most women I know have had a small tear but nothing to worry about. I saw this link on another thread about massaging your perineum?!?!?
I can't recommend this or not as this is my 1st pregnancy but I think I'll give it a go - anything to avoid tearing/episiotomy...
If it helps, my experience of episiotomy was not negative at all. It was painless as I was under epidural, and it healed incredibly well. Wasn't all that painful afterwards either - I was in mild discomfort for a few days and then fine. Since the birth I am slightly more 'windy' than before , but that's been it in terms of long-term effects.
I had a second degree tear, and like themoon66 I didn't feel it happening and didn't realise until the midwife told me. It healed fine. I think trying to do pelvic floor exercises as soon after the birth as you can helps with blood circulation and healing. I had a go at perineal massage when I was pregnant but found it really unpleasant.
Concur with all the other comments - tore with DD1 and had no idea whatsoever it was happening. In fact giving birth to DD2 was more painful as she emerged v e r y slowly - didn't tear, but involved more pain. Go figure!
Don't worry about it is my advice, que sera sera and all that. Being stitched up is undignified, but you are given local anaesthetic, so you don't really feel it. I got back to normal at the same rate following both my deliveries, so the tear/stiches didn't seem to factor in. And rather stiches in my fanjo than my stomach any day!
Hi - episiotomy with 1st, tore with 2nd and 3rd. Each one was worth it (but it did sting a touch!!) You'll be fine - don't panic.
P.S. This won't help but in my prep for childbirth classes the experts said that 30% of us would have a minor intervention. We worked out that in reality 90% of us had interventions and between us we had every intervention/post birth delight going. Being prepared is great but quite frankly there's not a darn thing you can do about it anyway. Just relax and enjoy being pregnant.
I had episiotomy and tore to my anus, Docs worried that I would lose bowel control (I didn't thankfully)! Amazingly I have yet to feel a thing, as soon as my DS born all pain gone, and no scarring either, don't worry it will all be fine.
MW at our antenatal classes was asked this & said approx 50% - so you have just as much chance of it not happening!
Sounds from the posts that most of the time it is not too much hassle if it does happen.
There are quite a few VBAC threads if you want some fuller stories Smiling
DS1 - episiotomy, hurt a bit, think I was given a local anaesthetic. Healed pretty quick.
DS2 - 2nd degree tear, tore upwards as well as down hurt like hell when it happened as I had no pain relief. Had to wee in the bath for days after which still stung! Healing took longer and was obviously more painful.
Would recommend perineal massage, it isn't particularly pleasant but I had a tiny tear that needed no stitches with an 8lb 12oz baby.
I wanted a natural labour with as little intervention as possible and ended up being induced with a syntocinon drip and epidural and delivering on my back with my legs in stirrups, none of which I wanted but I still had a positive experience and have a lovely baby.
I think that's the difference between and elective c-section and vaginal delivery, the uncertainty. I made my choices all the way along although they were directed by the midwives.
My neighbour had a c-section 4 weeks before I had my son and she took a lot more pain killers and had a much slower recovery than I did, so think about that side of it. You won't be having major abdominal surgery.