I'm a first time mom. Both me and my DH's families live overseas. I'm very close to my mom so i'm inviting her to come and support me right after the birth (both emotionally and practically like cooking and cleaning). My aunt is a professional doula so i'm asking her to come along at the beginning as well.
All along my DH and I thought that his parents will visit at a later date (when my mom and aunt have gone). However we just found out that my MiL had actually been planning to come for the birth as well, and is now very upset because we don't seem too thrilled about it. The thing is, my MiL has mobility issues so she wouldn't be able to help out (in fact we'd have to worry about how to get her from one place to the next!), and on top of that it's always been super stressful for both me and my DH whenever she visits for various reasons. However my DH thinks that he couldn't say no to her, and he thinks we'd be ok as long as MiL and FiL do not stay in our house (the closest hotel is 1 mile away, but MiL will require a ride for this distance).
Since everyone has to take a long-haul flight to get here they might all get their tickets to come a week or two BEFORE the due date, and since my DH won't be able to take time off before i go into labour it'll mean that i'll have to entertain his parents (along with my own mother and aunt!) when i'm heavily pregnant.
I don't know how long my MiL and FiL plan to stay, but i am really worried that it will be too much, both for me and for my DH. I got quite emotional trying to explain my concerns to DH , but i also don't want to make him feel like he's between a rock and a hard face. I don't mind his parents coming to see the baby, but I just don't think i can cope with everyone being here at the same time when we're becoming parents for the first time and trying to cope and survive ourselves.
Sorry it's a long rant but i'd appreciate advice on how I can make the situation better / how we can communicate this to my in-laws tactfully!
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FTM due in 6 months, but my in-laws already planning their visit for the birth
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keepingiteasy · 29/11/2019 16:02
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