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why do some people think that anyone thay says anything positive about pg cb bf etc is trying to be competative

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pregnantbabyelephant Tue 21-Aug-07 19:21:47

why is it almost seen as bad to say anything positive about your experience of
either getting pregnant
child behaviour

why if a mum says anything like
i did really well in labour i didnt need any pain relief in a **matter of fact way **
do people think shes acting like its a competion

or that for EXAMPLE
they got pg really quickly
they had an easy pregnancy
coped great in childbirth
find breastfeeding easy
baby sleeps though the night
child does well at school

obv all these things have not, i repeat not happened to me
i wish !

however i have noticed that anytime some feels they have done something well for example had a good birth/no pain relief etc

or say they felt great during pregnancy

do others say its not a competion
it like they cant talk honestly about there experience

and what should some one with a v bright child do when that child exceeds at school not say so incase they offend anyone ?

am not talking about myself
had a v diff pregnancy
v diff birth which ended up with me in the operating theater after birth
crap recovery
lots of probs bf
still probs bf

so im certainly not talking about my exprience
but ive noticed others getting all pissing about it when some mums talk about there good experiences ie childbirth

i just think good for you

well i noticed two women talking at the baby clinic about births 1st one was saying how well she did with no pain relief etc
with pride
and quite right to imo
and then the person she was chatting to say well theres no medals for bravery!
in quite a putting down way

i really dont think she was boasting or saying it was easy for me so should be for everyone
she was actually saying how lucky she had been

just made me feel like is this what motherhoods like? why can we celebrate things together and support each other more?

MellowMa Tue 21-Aug-07 19:24:01

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WanderingTrolley Tue 21-Aug-07 19:27:05

It's because there is a fine line between proud self confidence and self-congratulatory smug wanker.

Unfortunately, nobody can agree on the exact location of the line.

pregnantbabyelephant Tue 21-Aug-07 19:34:22

2nd person was actually asking 1st person about it !

and then got all pissy when she told her, her experience !

and she wasnt saying smug just matter of fact
and really she was playing down saying oh ive just been lucky

i think is a real shame
its like 2nd person was actually hoping 1st person would say she had a shit tim to make her feel better or something

MellowMa Tue 21-Aug-07 19:34:54

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pregnantbabyelephant Tue 21-Aug-07 19:40:04

mellowma Everyone is different/unique etc
wish everyone could realise that

Tutter Tue 21-Aug-07 19:43:21

lol wt

that line moves all the time

even does just for me

i found myself posting the other day about how gobsmacked i was at ds2's alarming sumo-lik weight gain

then fretted (albeit momentarily later that it might be seen as smug norkfeedery

MellowMa Tue 21-Aug-07 19:50:03

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pregnantbabyelephant Tue 21-Aug-07 20:16:32

your right mm again

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