I had an episitomy on Monday to deliver my gorgeous little boy but haven't done a poo since, they keep asking me if i had and i am now on laxitives but still nothing. How long was it until your first poo and did it really hurt when it did arrive!!!
Eat loads of stool-softening foods... berries are good but dried apricots are the best! Make sure, they're organic though. Non-organic contain something that can cause trapped wind, apparently. It's not too traumatic, bt the way!
I had an episiotomy with ds1 and was petrified about going to the loo afterwards that I refused to eat anything with fibre in.After 5 days I did eventually go and it didn't hurt at all.I did have lots of salt baths beforehand though,so I don't know if perhaps that might have helped.
Had baby Tuesday night, had '2nd baby' Thursday morning. I had been on lactulose and fibogel and they wouldn't let me go home until the deed was done. Found using a wad of loo paper to support the undercarriage helpful.
Day after giving birth and it was fine. Was a bit nervous but decided to get it out the way at the hospital. Was not as bad as I thought. The chances of you actually splitting are practically non-exsistant. As someone suggested hold a pad on your stitches. TBH I found that normal sitting down/ walking etc was far worse then going to the loo.
Sorry this might not be helpful, but I did struggle. Did san towel thing etc. Nobody warned me to eat apricots etc. Day 7 midwife had to call DR to house as I was in agony having not been at all - normally go several times a day so very unusual and scary. Midwife inserted glycerin suppository for me as I was in a state. GP prescribed lactulose. When the deed eventually 'happened' it wasn't so bad. I think I had more trouble cos of nasty piles . Perineal stitches were infected too, so all in all I was a bit of a mess down there.
Next time (am pg again), I will ask for lactulose from GP before labour, and stock up on glycerin supps. I will eat apricots as soon as I leave delivery suite! I'd rather it was all a bit runny than go through that again! (Sorry way TMI!!!!)