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Sex after birth and 2nd deg tear - how long should I wait?

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Moorhen Fri 17-Aug-07 17:19:13

DS now 3 wks old today, and DH and I keen to get started again (he's being wonderful about walking DS about at night, changing nappies etc so all I have to do is feed and am not too knackered).

Had 2nd degree tear when pushed him out, but was told it was internal and too small to need stitches.

Feel almost normal again, and we're due on holiday next week - villa with rest of family, so childcare on tap and thus some privacy

So would we be safe to try, or should I wait for 6 wk check-up/doctor go-ahead? Can we cause more damage if not fully healed?

Thanks in advance for any thoughts!

sleepfinder Fri 17-Aug-07 20:15:45

go for it, I had 2nd degree with stitches, exernal and internal and by 3 wks felt ok, healed etc.

we took it slowly at first as the area torn was a little sensitive and I was a little nervous, but really need not have been

good luck!

vizbizz Sat 18-Aug-07 22:18:24

Congrats on your baby! They usually recommend waiting till you have had a check up. it's good to hear that you are feeling so great.

divamumplusbump Sat 18-Aug-07 22:22:06

i had tears, and we waited till check up. you could see your gp before hols, so you be in the safe side.

notnowbernard Sat 18-Aug-07 22:26:42


I too had 2nd degree tear (but had to have stitches)

Had sex about 3.5 weeks later... but it was abit like a science experiment (served a purpose, but wasn't that interesting... was useful to learn that everything was still functioning )

Good luck!

SlightlyMadStar Sat 18-Aug-07 22:28:15

I was asked at my 6wk check if everything was OK in that department - so I don't think you have to wait until check.

vole3 Sun 19-Aug-07 02:52:06

Whenever you feel ready. Just take time to get 'warmed up' and remember to use some form of contraception unless you want to have another surprise in 9 months!

Psychobabble Sun 19-Aug-07 07:45:27

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

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