Hi everyone
My son is a year old and we are planning number 2 quite soon. Nothing about pregnancy or labour scares me, I found labour quite exciting and feel I would be better prepared for less pleasant bits if they were to happen again (e.g. infected episiotomy). However - the pushing bit is worrying me.
With my first I was in a midwife led unit but had to be transferred due to failure to progress and meconium in my waters. I went from 7cm to 10cm in the ambulance but was then told to wait for an hour before pushing because baby was semi brow presentation. I pushed for an hour, then my contractions stopped, then I was given the drip then I pushed for another hour before I was given the episiotomy and ventouse. I've no complaints about any of it, I trusted that they would do what needed to be done.
However during pushing the midwife kept telling me that I wasn't trying hard enough, I needed to think of things that made me angry and I needed to put myself 2nd for my baby because I was a mother now. I really really tried - so much so I burst blood vessels in my eyes. I stayed calm throughout, I didnt make noise I concentrated on pushing but it just felt to fruitless- he wasnt coming out. The midwife said I needed to give 3 pushes per contraction and I just couldn't manage the 3rd. When he was weighed she said that I would never have got him out by myself.
In preparation for baby number 2 is there anything I can do to make myself better at pushing? I did quite a lot of birth prep but I always assumed pushing was just a case of going for it and clearly I didnt. The episiotomy really ruined my first couple of weeks of motherhood and it was clearly my fault so if I could avoid it 2nd time round that would be great.
Sorry for the essay and any advice would be great. I am aware, btw, that I'm not even pregnant yet and even if I do get to childbirth again I might need a c-sec etc, but this has been playing on my mind.
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Very worried about pushing after 1st birth
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NeverGotMyPuppy · 30/09/2019 23:56
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