I'm looking for women who've had similar experiences and come out the other side.
Most of my birth was straightforward. Waters broke at 6am bang on my due date. Contractions started half an hour later. Started at 8 minutes apart. Went for a walk with my husband, had a bath, practised my hypnobirthing breathing. I was feeling in control.
My husband rang the midwife unit to keep them updated with my progress. They didn't ask us to come in until my contractions were 2.5 minutes apart. We live 35-40 minutes from the hospital.
When I arrived 7 hours after waters broke, the midwife said I was 8cm dilated. She also stated, "this will be quick".
I spent hours in the birthing pool. My hypnobirthing teacher and the midwife told me my body would take over and that I wouldn't need to actively push (what a joke!). I let my body do the pushing for about 2 hours. The midwife then suggested I start bearing down. I didn't really know what that meant.
11 hours after my labour started, and three and a half hours into second stage labour, the midwife changeover brought a new midwife in, who coached me in how to actually push effectively. My baby quickly crowned, but after another hour and a half, he had still not come out. At this point, I'd been doing fine on gas and air, and was disappointed that my baby still wasn't here.
I was taken to the delivery ward where a consultant told me they'd need to give me a spinal, an episiotomy and forceps my baby out. They also discovered that baby had turned back to back, and that his neck was bent backwards, stopping him from coming out.
After the spinal, two different surgeons tried three times to turn my baby to allow a forceps delivery. My husband said their arms were covered in blood up to the elbows. Following every attempt, my baby twisted back again after they removed their arms. They explained they'd have to do an emergency caesarean. The anaesthetist checked my abdomen to see how far I was numb. I have previously shown resistance to anaesthetic at the dentist and during a cervical treatment, and yet again, I wasn't numb far up enough for them to perform the caesarean.
They asked my husband to leave the room so that they could perform the caesarean under general anaesthetic. It wasn't how I'd wanted my birth to be, but I know you can't plan these things and just wanted my baby out safely.
Baby was born at 00:21 the day after labour started. I was taken to a delivery ward room and rested. I was told that they'd found a 300ml vaginal haematoma during the caesarean. They'd made a 3cm cut to drain it, and put two rolls of gauze into me. They attempted to remove this a few hours later which was agony. I needed gas and air to cope.
Bear in mind, I have a very high pain threshold. I got to 8cm at home and have been brought up to be brave and not complain.
At 6pm, the same day my baby was born, the midwives noticed that I looked pale. They tested my blood and discovered that my haemoglobin was 70. Lower than the levels recommended for transfusion.
They said that my blood might be diluted or that I lost more blood in surgery than they thought and decided to wait and see.
They tested my blood again 12 hours later and my HG levels were down to 40. They realised I was bleeding internally. They needed my blood to be brought in on a motorbike and I had 4 units transfused. They also made me go 14 hours nil by mouth while they decided whether to open me up again to investigate.
I had a CT scan and it was found that the vaginal haematoma had filled up again, and that I'd bled into my abdomen 800ml forming a broad ligament haematoma.
I was in agony and couldn't walk/get out of bed for four days. I couldn't sit up. I couldn't change any of my baby's nappies. I was so upset. The only thing I could do was breastfeed. Thankfully, he was great at feeding and put on a pound and a half during our 11 nights stay in hospital. When they removed my catheter, they realised how immobile I really was (due to the crippling pain in my abdomen) and moved me to a private room on the post delivery ward.
My husband, Mum and MIL took shifts looking after my baby and me.
Four days after delivery, I noticed that my previously flatish tummy was swelling just above my scar. This was where most of my pain was located. Over my 11 day stay, I complained of the increasing swelling and pain at least three times a day to various midwives, but kept being told that it was normal, despite barely being able to walk. On day 8, I was given an internal ultrasound and external shallow scan (both horrendously painful). The sonographer said there was a fluid built up under my scar and said that it must be causing me a lot of pain.
Consultants and midwives both assured me that this fluid and swelling was totally normal.
Three weeks PP, the ultrasounds were repeated and it was discovered that the broad ligament haematoma had increased to 1 litre in size, but had probably blocked off its own source, and so they would leave it to be absorbed my body over the next SIX MONTHS. In the meantime, I'd be extremely prone to infection and need to take my temperature daily.
I know this is incredibly long so I will wrap up: I couldn't get out of bed or sit up unaided for four days. I couldn't walk upstairs for two weeks. I'm still in pain every day 6 weeks PP. I can't stand to be touched or have clothes against the swelling as it is so painful. I've already been back on antibiotics following the two drip courses and one oral course of antibiotics in hospital due to infections in the haematomas.
Is this really normal? I am grateful to have my healthy baby boy, but I am so sad that I have been left so ruined and in so much pain.
Well done to anyone who read to the end!
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When will I get better? Traumatic birth left with three haematomas and pain.
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applesauce1 · 25/01/2019 17:36
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