When you cannot talk during the contractions then it's time to go to hospital. I'd suggest staying at home as long as you dare. Listen to your instincts. Keep warm, active but don't over do it, plenty fluids & pee regular!
Yes bumper cant recommend G & A enuff!! Helps with pain and helps you focus & breat as they get stronger. WHen they get stronger you tend to hold your breath - like you would when you stub ur toe but for longer - you have to breathe to get the gas in you so you stay focused - its ace.
I have to smile at the "can't talk through contractions" - I was talking - ok it was complete gibberish and sometimes verging on shouting LOL - all the way through most of mine right up to, and including, pushing .
DH is on his way. Works about 45 mins away. Don't know whether to call my mum or not. She is coming up, and is on the alert at the moment, but I told her to wait until I see the midwife in a couple of hours. She lives 2 hours away and don't want to call her for nothing.