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Childbirth

Induction - is it worth hubby coming?

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Lenny1987 · 18/09/2018 19:46

Hi all

First baby being induced next Tuesday 2pm, at 39 weeks. Husband doesn't finish work til half 5, works 15 - 20 mins away from hospital. Do you think it's worth him being off that day or is it a waste? I know everybody's induction seems to be different but wondering how likely it is that things would kick in that quick. Also, is it worth him being there when they put the pessary in etc?

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strawberr · 18/09/2018 19:58

I was induced on the Tuesday night and labour started at about 1am on the Thursday.
I had my partner there but I was scared about the whole experience - it depends on how comfortable you are going through it without him
Good luck x

Whatififall · 18/09/2018 20:07

I’d have him there, each induction is different.
I was induced at 11am on a Saturday, had baby at tea time on Monday. Woman in next bed also started induction at 11am Saturday, she was taken to delivery suite by 1pm same day.

Spice04 · 18/09/2018 20:14

I was induced at 42 weeks at about 10 am on a Friday and had my son at 9pm Saturday night. Nothing happened whatsoever within the first 14 or so hours. Is there a guarantee that induction will begin at 2pm?? My husband was with me throughout but we had to wait around for quite a while on the Friday morning in a triage room for someone to come and start the Induction process. All the best of luck meeting your baby x

mrs2468 · 18/09/2018 20:15

It's totally up to you as you say everyone is different. Can he get there in 15 mins even in rush hour? It's a tough one as you could be in for days before anything happens but equally could be quite quick.

More2Fly · 18/09/2018 20:19

It's very unlikely that you'd start labour, however it's nice to have the support once the contractions start.
I was induced 7pm Friday night and delivered 10.30pm the next night (Saturday). In saying that, he went home about midnight on the Friday and i tried to get a bit of sleep (ha!) and he was back in Sat morning at 7am

Starlight345 · 18/09/2018 20:20

My induction .
I was monitored for an hour then had to wait for a dr . I think I arrived at 4 induced at 6 . Waters broke at 10. Ds born 12.20.

How far away is he from the hospital

It depends if you want him there for induction but he would likely be their for the birth

Lenny1987 · 18/09/2018 20:21

It's so difficult, based on past experience at the hospital nothing seems to go to time, so seems unlikely the induction will even start on time! He's self employed so the more time he can have off with the actual baby here the better financially but it won't matter a huge amount, just don't want him wasting his time. Not that he would see it like that at all, he's happy to do whatever I want.

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Corcra · 18/09/2018 20:22

It depends how you are. I was induced at 11am, contractions started at12 and I had her at 6pm. But I was ok for him not to be there for a while.

PhilomenaButterfly · 18/09/2018 20:22

I didn't even need to be induced, a sweep kicked things off, DS2 was born 6 hours later. You never know how things will turn out.

Lwmommy · 18/09/2018 20:23

My experience was that i got in to hospital at 8am, had about an hour of laying on the bed with a monitor band on my belly checking baby.

Had about an hour hanging around waiting for someone to be free, then the pessary was inserted, then loads of hanging around.

I would suggest if you are happy with it that he just come to the hospital once work is done, he could always leave work at the drop of a hat and be with you in 30 mins if needed.

Thesnobbymiddleclassone · 18/09/2018 20:23

I'd have him there just so he can be there when they explain what they're going to do and to offer you support as you just have no idea how your body will react to it.

Srsly · 18/09/2018 20:23

It's statistically unlikely that you'll go into labor before he finished work. But it is possible.

Having the induction isn't that lovely, and it's quite nerve wracking. Emotionally I would want my husband there. That said, with my second/third babies I'd have been less fussed - but they were not induction babies :)

Hassled · 18/09/2018 20:23

I showed up at the allotted hour for my induction and the labour ward was incredibly busy - they didn't have the capacity to even start the induction for several hours. That said, you may well need the company while you wait.

FogCutter · 18/09/2018 20:23

As he's so close by, you could always call him if things start happening (assuming he can keep his phone on).

My induction was pretty quick (pessary at 10, first twinge when waters broke naturally at 12.30, baby born 50 mins later) but if my DH was 20 mins away he wouldn't have missed anything as I'd have called him when my waters broke.

Verbena87 · 18/09/2018 20:24

The waiting bit could be boring and a bit scary, nice to have someone to talk to.

I was induced on a Thursday evening (got there about half 6, I think the pessary went in around 7 or 8. By 10 I was uncomfy and by midnight definitely in labour. Baby was born 1:20pm Friday, but I had a really long second stage (pushing for 2 hours, do not recommend!!) as he was huge and wedged, so I think it would have been sooner if he’d not been such a chunk!

Elbbob · 18/09/2018 20:25

I was induced at 39 weeks at 9pm Sat eve, but the booking in and health checks process took hours and I think the pessary was given around 11.30pm. Baby born Monday 6am.
I would say if he's that close to join you after work. Although the other consideration would he be able to concentrate at work knowing you are in hospital?

Fatted · 18/09/2018 20:26

Based on my experience, I would want DH there!

I didn't have the pessary, was already dilated. So I went on the drip and they broke my waters. After that it was an absolute nightmare from start to finish. I couldn't have done it without my DH by my side.

TheHobbitMum · 18/09/2018 20:27

I'd have him there also, I had one induction which took 40mins to delivery and another which was 12hrs. They are all so different, Good luck

Caspiana · 18/09/2018 20:30

Presumably he has a limited time off work and I would think the day off is better used once baby is here.

I was induced and it was quick, 24 hours or so. But i was fine having the pessary in and it was a dull few hours till contractions started. Also the pessary may not go in at 2. There may be a delay getting a bed and even then you will probably have to be monitored first etc.

So I reckon you’re fine for him to come after work. Good luck!

Numbkinnuts · 18/09/2018 20:34

Your admission may be at 2pm but very much doubt you will be induced then.

If the delivery ward is busy then there could be a delay.

If you are comfortable being in your own then get DH to come along later once you know they've started the induction.

The birth could be anything from a couple of days or couple of hours after induction.

bigfishlittlefishtupperwarebox · 18/09/2018 20:34

When I went for induction at 39 weeks I got there and was examined. I was already 2cm dilated but had no idea. They broke my waters within an hour of me arriving at the hospital. I wouldn't have been happy having that done without him there as they struggled to break them, and I was in a whole new territory that I had no idea about. I would personally want him there until first exam at least was done so I knew what I was to expect just based on that.

Sandstormbrewing · 18/09/2018 20:38

No. Just call him when things start kicking off.

Chances are you'll be there a few hours before you even get induced.

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starryeyedsnowgirl · 18/09/2018 20:50

I assume he finishes at 5 so I would just chance it. Like others have said an induction could go relatively fast (though unlikely) but there is no way it will happen at bang on 2. They will check you in and need to check your vitals and they will monitor the baby for a bit.

That said- I felt teary (quite unlike me) so it's possible you will want the support and his head may not be in work. Do what feels right. He won't miss the birth, but you may want a hand to hold. Good luck!

Corcra · 19/09/2018 00:19

Could you have someone you love and trust stay with you until he’s off work?

Charlottejade89 · 19/09/2018 08:47

It's not likely you'll be seen to for a while, especially not in the middle of the day. my waters broke at 2am monday but no contractions so I went in at 10pm on the Monday and pessary wasn't inserted til 2am. I sent my partner home to sleep. Mine didn't even work and I had to go for a drip insuction Wednesday morning at 2am and dd was born at 6.20pm so it was a long one!

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