I am 35 weeks pregnant with Baby 1. I am not scared of birth but for me I have no real desire to do it all naturally. I can't control what is going to happen obviously, but if things go at a normal pace I want to labour at home for as long as it takes and then have an epidural. I totally understand that epidurals increase the need for medical interventions, tearing and that I will need to be in a more clinical environment. But I find the idea of being in the hospital bit very reassuring. I am anxious about becoming a parent and the thought of being in a lot of pain really mind blowing. I just don't want to feel it longer than I have to. I also don't want my partner seeing me in pain.
The thing is I feel like a total failure. Ive been trying to do hypnobirthing techniques to get me through whatever fate chucks at me. But mainly to get through early labour before I can get to the hospital. However, the book I am reading (although it pretends to be neutral) very much focuses on natural birth as the first choice and interventions as an unfortunate but necessary back up. I stated antenatal classes the other day and the labour ward was very much marketed as a hell hole, where women loose their dignity and only really necessary in an emergency - with some acknowledgement that pain relief is ok if you have been labouring for a long time. .
I came home crying and feeling judged.
My midwife says that I have to start birth in the MLU regardless but can get a transfer and epidural but I don't believe her. I don't want to be in the MLU at all. It is really upsetting me. What can I do?
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I don't want to give birth in the MLU feel like a failure
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laurG · 05/06/2018 17:25
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