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C Section booked too late!(12 Posts)
I'm high risk and have been under consultant-led care. I'm 36 weeks now and it has always been agreed that I will deliver by c section at 39 weeks.
As the pregnancy has progressed my mental health has deteriorated, which is almost certainly due to suffering with HG throughout the pregnancy. I've had thoughts of self harming. I've had panic attacks. I am also terrified of going into spontaneous labour because of a traumatic previous birth.
I called the hospital today to get my c section date and they've got me booked for 40+1. There is, apparently, absolutely no room for movement on this. It's 'all we've got'.
My anxiety is now sky-high and I've spent the rest of the day in floods of tears. This has been an absolutely hideous pregnancy and the only thing getting me through the last few weeks has been knowing that the end is in sight.
I have a DC with ASD and I need to try and arrange care for them, which is v daunting since the likelihood of me going into spontaneous labour is much greater past 39 weeks (DC was early too). I don't have family nearby that can be on call to care for them. I'd need to arrange it in advance, which is another reason why the 39 weeks section was so important. If I do go into spontaneous labour I would have to go to hospital by myself and deliver by myself, because DH would need to be with DC.
I can feel my brain going into meltdown and I don't know what to do. The consultants discharged me this week after a final check and growth scan. Do I go through my midwife? I can feel myself spiralling.
I would call your midwife straight away and tell her everything. Take care
I've texted her as I know she has a busy day on Weds. I'm hoping she gets back to me, if not I'll call tomorrow.
So sorry op. Are there any other hospitals you could try and book into? Your midwife or consultant really should sort this for you.
I understand how scary this would be. I had a traumatic first birth too that ended in a section and will require c sections in future. Going into spontaneous labour would be my concern too. However remember you can call an ambulance and emergency c sections can happen very quickly.
Push, push, PUSH for an earlier date. If you're not feeling strong enough, could your DH/partner call the Consultant's secretary and put the pressure on?
I could have written your post, btw! DS with ASC, HG all through my second pregnancy, the whole thing was a nightmare of stress and ill health. I was booked in for 39+6, but with pushing I was eventually given my c-section at 37+5.
They usually can move things around based on need/urgency, so its about making a case for yourself (or getting your other half to do it for you).
Google your consultants name and his NHS secretary / pa. Most are on the net and easy to find. Then call her. Get a message direct to the consultant.
Thanks all. I don't know if I can call the consultant any more because they discharged me today after my final check/growth scan.
Did your consultant recommend the cs at 39 weeks? If so, yes you can call!
I'm getting nowhere with contacting them. Keep getting sent round and round wards in circles.
Are you seeing anyone for your mental health? Could they advocate for you?
If not ask your midwife for an emergency referral to the peri-natal mental health team, your hospital should have one and explain everything to them and see what they suggest/can do.
Failing that, go see your GP and see if they will suggest anything.
I have ptsd and because of that, mine is booked for 39+1 and I'm first on the list so there should be wriggle room.
What was the reason for you being high risk? Was it mental health or something to do with your previous pregnancy/physical health? Could you use that as leverage?
Phone hospital switchboard and ask to be put through to your consultants Secretary
I had an elcs booked for 39wks, went into labour at 38wks, just went in as soon as I was sure it was labour and had the c section no problem.
So if you go into labour before the date just get in ASAP and they should just do the section then.
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