Sorry this will be long!
Had a horrible and traumatic hospital birth with my first. The horror of it was mainly psychological as baby was born healthy and 'naturally' with just a cut but no tearing. I had no heamoraging or any issues like that. It was just very very long almost three days and I was in hospital awake all that time (induced) Was in stirrups took all pain relief options offered. It had a very bad effect on me mentally and I ended up with brief psychosis and then PND which meant it took me a very long time to bond with my son.
I just basically want to avoid the mental issues this time around as I feel so sad that the first months of my sons life I can barely remember except for wanting him away from me, to the extent my husband did most of the care.
I did think of asking for a c section as then I would not be spending time in labour.
But when I think about it a lot of my issues had to do with being in the hospital. They kept moving me around and changing staff and I became very confused. I do feel this lead to my psychosis (during which I could not work out where I was and did not recognise anyones faces and heard random voices) They also asked my husband to leave overnight which made the problem much worse as then of course there was no one at all that I would even attempt to be able to recognise. He actually just took me with him, I left against medical advice which was a very wise thing to do as god knows what I would have ended up doing to myself and baby if left in the hospital alone overnight. At home I got visited by crisis team who were amazing with me, much better than hospital staff.
So I just want to hear about peoples experience of homebirth. The only reason I had not previously considered this was I am a total wuss with pain. The epidural was amazing in the hospital and the only good bit of my birth.... but Im reading that perhaps a lot of the pain I felt in hospital may have been due to fear and confusion?
Im most worried about the crowning which I did not feel at all in hospital. Id like to hear about peoples experience of this part with no pain relief. And if anyone has suffered from PND with the first and gone on to have a home birth Id really love to hear about if that helped prevent it a second time round?
Thanks!!
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Home Birth! could I handle the pain after having had an epidural last time around?
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windchimesabotage · 23/02/2018 23:05
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