Hi everyone! I'm 31 weeks Pregnant and a FTM.
We were trying for years to conceive and it finally happened. Over the moon. I've been taking it all one step at a time (haven't wanted to 'jinx' anything) and now all of a sudden it's finally dawned on me that actually this is happening and in a few weeks I'm going to have to give birth!!
I've read a couple of threads on MN about terrible things that have happened during people's labour. Crossed with the awful stories people tell me in RL about how horrific it is and how it's common to get PTSD after traumatic births.
I've basally got myself into a bit of a mess. I'm really really nervous now to the point where I've started to cry the past couple of days worrying about horrible midwives / someone holding me down against my wishes / being refused pain relief or knowing something is wrong but no-one checking/believing me.
Not particularly looking forward to the pain – but that comes part and parcel with giving birth so I'm fine with that.
Bit more info so I don't drip feed: I'm naturally quite an anxious worrier anyway: I've got low PAPP-A which means I have to take an aspirin a day making my blood really thin. What if I bleed so much I die! I'm also rhesus-negative so what happens if my blood and the babies blood mix and he dies! I feel like its all getting on top of me and I don't know what to do. I've not had any experience of this before (other than what I've seen in movies) and the fear of the un-known / not being in control may be making this worse.
I was wondering if anyone could share their easy, happy, relaxed birth stories where its all just straight forward and simple. No trauma.
I'm fully aware things don't always go to plan and I'm okay with that. We've waited so long for this baby that I'd happily lose both legs if it meant he's born safe. Any complications during the actual labour – I'm sure I can deal with. I just want to calm down before it all kicks off and stop being unduly worried when, at the moment, I don't need too.
Please, only post your nice, straightforward birth stories (If they even exist!) Call me a snowflake - but I just don't think I can cope with another awful birth story. I'm really struggling.
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sirlee66 · 12/02/2018 14:22
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