I am 33+5 with dcda twins, one of whom is measuring on the small side, so extra appts and scans. They are keeping a close eye on the babies and I am grateful.
But...... I have a history of SA including a nasty little episode with a paediatrician when I was a tween. I have massive anxiety over any type of gynae or intimate procedure. Going into hospital is really hard for me and I have tried so hard to be responsible and do everything to calm down. This includes a carefully researched birth plan with ideal delivery - what I can tolerate if stuff goes wrong - and in an emergency. It's been signed off by my usual consultant, two midwife leads, and my very experienced community MW. They all say it is sensible and flexible.
Today I had an appt with a different cons and she just wasn't having any of it. Oooh no, you'll have to have 7-8 people at least observing the birth.... oooh no they can't wait outside, we like to have them watch.... and on and on.
I just feel like I go back to square one every time and need to argue from scratch. I am terrified of going in during labour and encountering a massive room of people who won't budge and don't if I consent. I don't feel safe.
Sorry this is a right whinge but I feel like they just. Don't. Listen. Or give a shit about my mental health. Argh!
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Just need to vent after consultant appointment
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JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 08/02/2018 18:18
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