Hi there,
Need some advice.
My situation is I am alone with 3 children (one 4yo and two 1yo (twins)) and am due my 4th mid Jan (4 weeks to go).
Split with my husband (they are all his) and literally have noone. I know when people say that there is always someone (mum, dad, friend) but I am literally by myself.
I had a csec with the twins last year which was fine because my 4yo went to stay with my mother and father in law (his dad wouldn't have him). But they can't help this time round and now I have 3! The only thing I can think to do would be have a home birth as I have literally no childcare. I've never used a babysitter (oh won't let me in case of abuse etc) so I can't book them for childcare and have noone on standby.
Homebirth sounds good to me, because I can have the baby, already be at home and just get on with things after he's born as normal. Saw the midwife for the first time in 5 months the other day and she said no way because of the csec and they wouldn't support it. She said to have a planned csec because of my situation, I wouldn't object to that if they can operate in the morning and I can be home by the late afternoon (like the twins), she said they wouldn't agree to that as priority on the day depends on who is there. Their dad will likely look after them until tea time if his sister and parents are there (he won't do it alone) so I can ask his sister to book the day off (I know she will) but his mum has severe mental issues and can't be alone/by herself at all (let alone look after children) and his dad has to stay with her at all times, he has heart problems too so they aren't really on board understandably this time around.
Am trying to think of solutions but at the moment am veering towards just waiting until I go into labour and when contrations are 3 mins ish apart to call a mw to come round and then there won't be much choice.
I delivered my 4yo without even gas and air (midwives refused to give me pain relief point blank) so I know I can do it again, my only worry with that plan is I don't want the new baby to be at risk. (Our local hospital is worse than appalling) there is no way I will deliver naturally there - ever, through experience of my own and one of my friends babies now has cerebal palsy because the midwives ignored her. That feels like a bigger risk than both other options.
So I'm in a bit of a pickle and would appreciate some input please!
Thank you guys xx
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HELP! Home delivery after c sectio with twins
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