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Relaxing2 Wed 06-Dec-17 09:55:05

Scared of labour and birth

elland Wed 06-Dec-17 10:57:11

Hi OP, how many weeks are you?

Relaxing2 Wed 06-Dec-17 11:09:31


PeppaPigStinks Wed 06-Dec-17 11:11:40

I was like this and did a proper hypnobirthing course. It wasn't cheap but not much more expensive than nct classes in my area.
It was worth its cost and double!!
And I have gone onto have two more children.

I was so scared I would feel panicky every time I thought about it and cried a lot!!

Neoflex Wed 06-Dec-17 11:12:25

What parts are scaring you? The whole thing seems scary but if you tackle each stage individually it is more acceptable.

Eringray Thu 07-Dec-17 19:06:57

I have another 20 weeks to go and I get terrified at the thought of delivery too. But at the thought of having the bundle of joy in me, can't wait to see his/her face. halo

Choccywoccydoo10 Thu 07-Dec-17 19:09:34

I got anxious too and just tried to take my mind off of it. I paid for a private anti natal class and asked as many questions as I could to put my mind at rest. And when it happens you just go with it as it has to happen. Then if you find the pain too much the midwives will help and support you. They have done this hundreds of times smile

user1488794856 Thu 07-Dec-17 19:10:09

Another vote for thing I ever did.

Algebraic Thu 07-Dec-17 20:25:47

I vote hypno-birthing too! It is scary but when it actually comes to it all you can think of is meeting your baby, the fears seem to ebb away. Your body is very much in control and just seems to know what to do even if your mind doesn't!

Erica891 Fri 08-Dec-17 11:43:44

You need to talk to your dr about it. The whole thing is scary from a mum to be who lacks information about the whole thing. But given the right information it should be less scary if not exciting for some.

PasstheStarmix Sun 10-Dec-17 14:41:27

I was the same but found as I for further along in pregnancy my fears turned to just a anyone to get my baby out. Once you're in labour you literally don't care and just want to meet your baby. I was two weeks overdue and had to be induced so I was well ready and would have been induced earlier but they wouldn't do it!!

PasstheStarmix Sun 10-Dec-17 14:41:35


PasstheStarmix Sun 10-Dec-17 14:42:17

to wanting to get my baby out *

PasstheStarmix Sun 10-Dec-17 14:44:55

I had so many birth plans and they all went out he window. If I ever have a second baby no birth plans! I've realised you really can't predict what kind of birth you're going to have and if you get your chosen birth and everything goes to plan you're very lucky. In the end no matter what happens with the birth you have your beautiful baby in your arms and it's all worth it.

mumonthesedge Sun 10-Dec-17 16:34:58

By the time you get to 40 weeks you'll be wanting the baby out so much you won't even think about how much your scared of labour.

I am currently 38 weeks and due to have my ELCS the week beginning 18th and im petrified but im so fed up with being pregnant and all the aches and pains that im now in the mind set of get this baby out.

LookingForwardToChristmas Sun 10-Dec-17 16:41:46

Have you spoken to your midwife? It might be you have prenatal depression and being referred to the Perinatal Mental Health team or speaking to your GP might help.

I agree about looking at all aspects of labour individually. You should be able to find the number for the supervisor of midwives for your hospital online, so make contact and ask if you can talk through your fears to make sure you are as knowledgable as possible.

Hypnobirthing, antenatal classes and and seeing if your hospital runs a birth fears class or similar might help.

I would advise against assuming you’ll be fine by the end and desperate to just get the baby out as true anxiety and prenatal depression doesn’t work that way.

PasstheStarmix Sun 10-Dec-17 16:52:06

I guess it depends just how scared you are. All women are frightened of giving birth. Is it a normal fear or all an consuming terror that takes over your every day? Are you excited for your baby or is the fear on such a level it overshadows that? I think if it's severe and really affecting your life than take the advice of pp.

PasstheStarmix Sun 10-Dec-17 16:52:29

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