Hi all,
I'm booked in for a planned section on Thursday but not sure if it's the right thing to do.
Background: first baby c/s due to breech 3 years ago. At the time I'd been having reduced movement, I knew the placenta was calcified and was only too happy to get him out. My SIL was also pregnant at the time and we knew that her baby would not live long after birth. I was very aware of this and my anxiety levels were greatly increased.
During this pregnancy I decided early on that I would not be happy to go overdue due to previous placenta issues and the fear from reduced movement. I discussed this with the consultant and was told no problem, can have elective section at 38-39 weeks.
However, as time went on I was more confident and have pushed that to 40 weeks, movement has been fine etc
Now though, I'm not sure I'm doing the right thing.
Other info:
- I am a trained midwife, I'm not sure whether the doctors feel I know what's in my own best interests and have therefore let me decide.
- I currently work in a NICU- births going wrong is my day-to-day so this may have skewed my perception of "risk"
- I don't plan on having more children- obviously this may change in the future
- I'm worried about leaving my 3 yr old for a longer hospital stay, and worried about how I'll manage at home post section. I will have good support though.
- Head still hasn't engaged, didn't engage in my last baby either. Absolutely nothing happening at all, no twinges or signs of labour. Possibly a pelvic issue? It's unlikely I know. I don't want to refuse a section this week, go on another week or two and still end up with a section 2 weeks closer to Christmas (petty, I know)
I had an appointment this morning, when I asked I was told I could wait until Monday but because head was so high and bishops score was only 1 last week she didn't reassess because she felt a section was inevitable.
I know I can always refuse the section etc. Not even sure what I'm looking for. Reassurance?? That I'll cope fine, my body will heal, my 3 yr old will get over it??
Thanks to anyone who has read this far!!